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anonymous
writes:I kissed my boyfriends work friend.The girl he was out with was upset he offered to walk me to the car although i dont know if she actually saw the kiss.me and my partner go out with these people regularly and i cant guarantee he wont be told by one of the girls.How can i sort this "please dont tell me to tell him" because this would ruin his job, friends and end our relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jonty +, writes (16 July 2007):
 You could take a gamble and not tell him and hope he never finds out, but this is very risky, because if he does find out, the liklihood of him wanting to still be with you is very slim. But it could work.
You know him better than all of us, is he likley to accept it if you tell him? if not, you may as well take the gamble and say nothing.
You will have to live with the guilt, but is this better than losing him? Only you know the answer to that question.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (16 July 2007):
 If there is a BIG risk of him finding out don't you think its best you tell him first rather then him hear it from someone else?!
We all make mistakes hunni. It's all part of what makes us human.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Hi hun,
We all do things at times we regret but once done there is no turning back the clock, I know your scared and its hurting you and you fell guilty but you need to and be honest with yourself, would you rather he hear this from someone else???
He isn't going to be happy but hey it was only a kiss, I am sure if he loves you he will for give you you just need to give him time......A relationship is built on trust so now you know never to get into this situation again but its now down to you what decission you make tell him or leave it?????/
Love Donna xx
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reader, stina  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
You tell us not to tell you to let him know, so the only other suggestion I have is for you to break up with him. You relationship is not based on trust and there is infidelity. Is that what you want you relationship to be based around? I think it's a huge mistake to hope that nobody tells your boyfriend - and I think it's an even bigger mistake not to tell him.
If kissing his coworker would ruin his job, friends and your relationship, I honestly think he's better off without someone so selfish as to take these things into her own hands. Sorry, but I don't know what you want us to say - that it's okay to lie and hide things from your boyfriend?
Take care.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (16 July 2007):
 Why did you do that?
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (16 July 2007):
 well if your boyfriend kissed someone else would you rather hear it from a horrible co-worker, or from him. in my opinion i would pick him. now i would tell him and see what happens yes he is going to be hurt but wouldn't you. just try and work it out and asure him it won't happen again and actually don't let it happen again. good luck.
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