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writes:loads of people in my school are NOT virgins, some of them are but i wouldnt say many people are, they all have big boobs and have nice legs, and know all about sex and masturbation,can someone answer these questions:Do condoms really protect you 100%?what do you do then your 'wanking someone of' (masturbation on someone else)?I do know some things, but i dont exactly look into it.Can you get diseases and viruses even with a condom?Please answer, and dont call me stupid.
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reader, Savannahbronx  +, writes (8 December 2010):
Sex ed is the worst class in the school system these days. Ne way. A condom is very effective in preventing preg. And to be honest i did not get preg with my first or second child until i decided not to wear them with my long term boyfriend. It is possible to get a girl preg or get a disease with a condom that is if u dnt kno how ro use it or it breaks or an act of god. My best advice is to just not have sex so young and wait for as long as possible. Ur not missing much and u will enjoy life better without having the burden of preg or disease on ur mind. Enjoy life and wait for the right 1 to come along. Trust me u wnt regret it. Remembermasterbation gets u there just as good as the real thing lolz good luck
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reader, Odds +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Edit to my post below:
Just realized I did not specify this, but those numbers I gave are supposed to be over the course of several months of regular sex, not for any one time. Obviously, taking a 98% chance of sucesses many times is eventually going to result in a failure, which is why it's important to double up on protection - condoms, pill, clean bill of health, and so on.
When I compared condoms to pulling out in terms of preventing pregnancy, I did not mean to imply pulling out is effective - I meant to imply condoms are *not*, especially in the long term. They break and slip, or are used improperly.
Additionally, most people your age have no idea how to use a condom. It seems like it should be simple, but getting it wrong screws with the odds pretty badly. Find a video online on proper use.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Pulling out is NEVER safe.... and t compare it to the effectiveness of condoms is insane.
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reader, abcxyz  +, writes (3 October 2010):
You're taking a mature and cautious approach to this so don't feel bad about asking even if they are 'private' questions.
Condoms can dramatically reduce the risk of contracting an infection such as chlamydia, the most common STI. However there can be some times where this is not the case such as contracting herpes. Plus there is also the risk of the condom splitting e.g. due to oil based lubricant being used or the condom sell by date has passed.
Remember, using a condom and a contraceptive pill/implant/injection will provide you and your partner the safest form of contraception. You will be reducing the risk of infections and pregnancy.
To masturbate someone is basically grasping the penis and moving your hand up and down the shaft of the penis until the guy ejaculates (comes)
When you're masturbating someone, make sure you're doing this with someone you are comfortable with and who respects you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): If you’re the type of girl that is going to get with some random guy to have sex just for the sake of having sex then ALWAYS wear a condom. (that doesn't sound like you) But if you wait for the right guy, you can both talk honestly about whether or not either of you two have an STD. Even so, condoms are used by EVERYONE regardless of what stage of a relationship they happen to be in.
An honest man will tell you if he has or has ever had an STD. Some might get embarrassed and shy and kick themselves but they’ll be honest.
But some guys don’t give a damn about the girls and will overreact to you wanting to know, and/or lie to you, just so they can have sex, for the sake of having sex.
Your school sounds funny - Don’t follow the flock though. Move for yourself at your own, comfortable pace. Peer-pressure isn't cool.
Oh, and masturbating a guy can only be done with a dick. Usually this dick will come with a guy and usually this guy will know how to talk. He’ll know what to do, but that’s between you and him.
So don’t worry about it – part of the fun of sex is discovering.
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (3 October 2010):
Hi there,
Ch4 recently ran an excellent series of programmes aimed at yr age grp which will basically ans all yr q's.
Try looking at http://sexperienceuk.channel4.com/
Nice to see that you are taking a sensible approach to this.
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): A condom will protect you from most of the real nasties - pregnancy - aids - VD etc. If used *properly* But Birth control pills + Condom are a very good combo.
Google 'Ask Alice', you'll find a massive history of questions and answers on sexual history.
A couple of points.... the sex you have at high school will be a pale imitation of the kind of sex you'll have when your older.
Don't rush into anything for the wrong reasons (I.e. to be liked).
Be safe, use protection, don't get into any situations you can't control (like drinking, drunks, parties). Stupid drunk people do bad things to gullible/intoxicated girls.
And the hand job. Do they already have an erection? If not, start with kissing (the lips lol) and caressing until firm, wrap your fingers around the penis, stroke the penis up and down slowly, taking the skin up and down... (but not to far, it hurts if you go too far), increase speed as time goes on and he gets more excited.
To really send him over the edge, as he gets really excited, you may not be able to get him off completely, so say "Finish yourself off, I want to see you cum". :)
Good luck!
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 First off, why would we call you stupid? You're showing maturity by looking into this topic and I applaud you for it :) Here Goes: birth control pills only prevent pregnancy (98%) Condoms prevent pregnancy AND STDs but not 100% because they can break or tear if they are old or kept in wallets, pockets, or any other too-hot place too long. Female condoms are less effective than male condoms. A virus you can catch even with a working condom on is HPV (genital warts), it is spread through skin to skin contact. Pubic Lice can also spread this way but you can get rid of them with prescribed medicine. Oral sex also spreads disease. HIV can be gotten this way. Mouth guards are reccomended as well as condoms made especially for oral sex. Wanking someone off means that you are using your hand to stimulate their sexual organ and cause orgasm. NO disease comes from that since you're not exchanging bodily fluids. For more info, go to planned parenthood's website, talk to a school nurse or look up books. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): You're not stupid.
Condoms are not 100%
Wanking someone off...or a hand job
ummmm as I guy I can honestly say there isn't much you can do wrong ;)
basically all you really do is glide your hand up and down the shaft of the penis. i find girls hands to feel nice and soft in general...so not lube or lotion is really needed...but you can use that if you want or just spit in your hand or something (usually once a guy gets going there is 'pre-cum' which will help in the lucubration department)
when gripping the penis you can be firm...just dont strangle it. like a firm handshake (DONT HAND SHAKE THE PENIS THOUGH)
I usually find that just firmly stroking it while a girl is kissing me gets me off...
look and listen for cues (but dont be too sciencey about it) like increased breathing and stuff... then you can go faster and be a little firmer...then the guy will basically cum
this honestly and perhaps a little embarrassingly will take little time for most guys... think 3 minutes to 5.
you can get like crabs and stuff even if you use a condom... and they are not 100% as they can break and stuff. BASICALLY KNOW YOUR PARTNER...TRUST YOU PARTNER...and you dont have to rush into sex.
Edward 19
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 Oh yes, and I also want to add in that you are not stupid at all. The stupid ones are the ones who don't dare to ask and go around getting infected and pregnant due to their own ignorance. You are taking responsibility by educating yourself, which is the smartest thing you can do!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (3 October 2010):
Condoms are not 100% safe. I think they are about 97-99%? They are the only thing that will protect you against STD's. But, some STD's can be spread from kissing, touching, or just contact with the skin down there. Sex/penetration is not necessary for viruses or bacteria to spread. So, in that respect, condoms do protect, but only if you use them right. Herpes spread through kissing as well, just to let you know. Typically it is the bodily fluids that spread STD's. They spread through blood as well, so in some cases sexual contact doesn't even have to be in the picture, it could be as simple as a paper cut and it has been spread. This is completely dependent on what type of STD it is. So my advice on that is to read up about the different ones and how they spread. Bodily fluids include, but I don't think are limited to: sperm, pre-cum, saliva, blood, vaginal fluids.
Wanking someone off means that you are giving a boy a handjob: you use your hand on his penis. Boys masturbate typically by using their hands.
Just a list of some common STD's, and remember that even if you have contact with an infected person it is not 100% certain that the STD will spread. Some don't spread that easily, while others spread very easy:
Herpes: there are two types, one spreads through saliva (means you run a risk though kissing) and one is spread though sexual contact (such as vaginal fluids, pre-cum, sperm)
Hepatitis B: spread though blood, vaginal fluids and pre-cum (means kissing is risk free)
Genital warts: the most common STD, will often go by undetected and isn't harmful. But spreads insanely easily though mere contact of skin. It means you can touch a boys penis or groin, and then get it. So "wanking someone off" isn't completely risk free. Rubbing up against one another will also spread it.
Here is a place for you to go and read more:
http://www.avert.org/std.htm
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reader, Odds +, writes (3 October 2010):
No one here is going to call you stupid or make fun of you. No worries. Closest thing we get to that is reprimanding people for cheating, which doesn't seem to apply here.
Condoms are not 100% in any way, even used properly. While they are the most effective way of preventing transmission of VD (anywhere from 70 to 90%, depending on the disease in question, and assuming they are used properly), they are only slightly better than pulling out at preventing pregnancy.
When a guy wanks off on you, if it gets anywhere near your lady-parts, you risk pregnancy. If it gets anywhere near your mouth, eyes, lady-parts, or open wounds, you risk infection.
Make sure you're on the pill, and that your partner is clean. Or better yet, keep your virginity intact until you meet someone special, who you might have a future with.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (3 October 2010):
 I don't think anyone here is going to call you stupid. We only call those stupid who ask these questions once it is too late. Anyway, Sex-ed is terrible these days. Personally I can only remember ever having one lesson on it while in secondary school! I know most of the stuff from reading it up online and watching sex-ed tv shows.
1.Condoms are around 98% - 99% safe. (I always thought it was 99% but have read that it's 98% on a few occasions)
2. When giving a guy a handjob you pretty much just have slide you hand up and down his penis. The speed or how tight your grip should will be different for every guy.
3. Condoms do usually protect completely from STD's. I think the only exception would be if the condom was to come off while having sex, which could also lead to pregnancy...
If you want to find out more about Safe sex and birth control check out the NHS website as they have quite a lot of information about it on there.
Oh yeah, and as for those girl at your school, I could bet that half of the ones who say that they've had sex are lying about it to fit in with the crowd and most of them probably don't know as much about sex as they claim either. I can also bet that a lot of them aren't using protection so will most likely end up pregnant before they have even finished education.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 October 2010):
Actually, you're not stupid at all. Far from it. The stupid person is the one who doesn't ask.
Condoms protect approx 96%-98% of the time. That's because they can split, or sometimes people put them on wrong. The best protection you can have (apart from not having it, which won't happen), is to use BOTH condoms AND the Contraceptive Pill. The Pill is approx 98% effective, so using both this and condoms will give you a 99.9% chance of not getting pregnant.
Masturbating someone else depends on the guy, since most guys have different ways of doing it. So you can always get the guy to show you how he likes it.
Yes, you can get diseases and viruses, even with a condom. Herpes, Crabs are both transferable even if you have condoms. However, condoms SIGNIFICANTLY reduce the chance of getting diseases. The only way to be sure would be for you and a partner to both get tested (which is FREE in Britain, so use this service).
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reader, toomuch stress +, writes (3 October 2010):
 No, condoms are not 100% effective, and neither is any other form of birth control. Abstinence is the only 100% way of not having a child. But with that said, the female being on the pill or shot and the male using a condom combined is a pretty effective way of lessening the chances of conception.
Yes, you can get diseases if you are wearing a condom.
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