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writes:Hiiii xxFirst off, I'm a 15 year old chick. I kind of have a crush on my grade nine math teacher (I'm in grade ten now.)I won't go into details, but at the beginning of this year he was fine with me, and nowadays he seems to be avoiding me and ignoring me. When I'm talking to my friend, he'll come talk to her and not even look at me, even though I'm RIGHT THERE. It was my birthday a few weeks ago and I told him, and he seemed kind of awkward, like he didn't reallky want to be talking to me. I think he may know about my crush, from maybe overhearing someones conversation.. and it kind of hurts. Putting aside the crush aspect, I really like and respect him and don't want a stupid little crush getting in the way of the pre-existing student-teacher relationship (I mean, on the student-teacher bases, not higher.) I know nothing could happen, and I know he's just trying to keep his job and stuff but... I have no idea how to approach him about this and make things right.. I really want to just get along with him as a friend so to speak, nothing more. How do I approach him about this and clear things up so things between us are no longer tense and awkward?Thankssss xx
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reader, mouse97  +, writes (13 September 2010):
since you say that it would start romurs to be seen talking to him...write him a note...explain to him how you feel.... noone would know and then you will know that he understands without you or him feeling akward
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): well, i too had a crush on my soc sci teacher hahaha, when he knew abt this, he kind of avoided me, i felt sad and blamed everything on myself... well,since then, i started to show him that i dont need him and proved him that he's wrong with what he thinks about me...from that day on, i didn't mention him being my crush anymore... i just valued our student-teacher relationship, however, i dont say hi to him whenever we meet in the corridors....today? i became his favorite student [i dont know exactly why ]being the first honor, and the most active student in class...he always say hi to me, and greet me every morning.. he often chats with me online and those sort of stuffs... he said [mentioning my name during class ]that i am the type of girl he would like to be friends with, and that he likes me ahahaha ... but he said that he's our teacher and we're his students... and no matter what happens, it will always remain that way...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): Hi there
I sort of know your situation. I am going into grade 8, and Ive had a crush on my PE teacher since grade 6.
Just play it cool--maybe casually bring up that you think hes been ignoring you for a while, and you dont really like it. Explain that it was just a crush, nothing more.
hope I helped... :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Hey hunni, i know similar to wat ur going through. I like my year 8 (i'm in year 9 now) math teacher and I think I must've let sumthin slip becoz he began to avoid me. so I did something completly outta the blue (DONT DO THIS - REPEAT DO NOT DO THIS)
I marched RIGHT up to him and said "Mr ***** wat is up with u??" *he confused* "u've been avoiding me for months"
and I found out that he liked me to and thanks to my out burst he left the school and I neva heard from him since
... ok thats not helpful
but this should be :
Stop. Its not love or even a crush, its more like admiration ok?? You WILL get past this, just promise me and every reader that you will NOT take this any further, ok?
:)
Good Luck
good luck
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reader, Kittycat101 +, writes (10 January 2009):
ah that sucks! in my opinion he wasnt that cool to begin with then :P i know how you feel i have a crush on my ag teacher ~_~ hes awesome he lets you mess with him (tease him about liking girl students since hes only 21-22 lol they had a joke bout him liking some chick and they were like omg Mr.D only 3 more days till sarah's legal (18th birthday) XD) and mess around in class and never gets anyone in trouble. Plus hes just plain cool... ah sorry had to spill~ anyways i say you switch or try to explain to him after class that you did like him but not anymore and you just want him to teach you math cause hes a good math teacher!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): hi!
well i can relate to this story! and i think it happens to everyone unfortunately. because it also happened to me in believe it or not 9th grade. ( Im in 10th grade now) I dont really think that you can clear this up. Theres no possible way of confronting him and talking about it. So yea sorry! And hopefully things will get better in time..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): im the same person from the comment below my bad i didn't finish what i had to say.
anyways i wish u luck and if your teacher is starting to treat you how mine treats me then forget about him i know it's hard, iam going through it right now but just do your best to let go. best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): I can relate! Last yr in 9'th grade my English teacher would ALWAYS flirt with me and I would flirt back. I thought I meant something to him, I even bought him something for Valentines Day. He made my heart beat really fast and to this day he still does. I feel like he avoids me because he knows how much I like him. I just wish he would be honest with me and not play these games anymore. Sometimes when I see him around on campus he'll walk right by me and not even look at me. It hurts me alot because I have been nothing but sweet and nice to him, any other student would be a bitch and tell the principal that he flirts, but I'am not like that. I'am glad he flirted with me, I just don't like how he left me so damn confused. I mean when he would walk by my desk he would touch my hair and give me big smiles. I told him that he would look really nice with facial hair and what did he do?? About a week later he had a go-tee. I told him he looked really good and he said "Thank you, my wife doesn't like it tho...but I'm glad you do...anything for you" and he smiled. What really pissed me off was on the last day of school I asked him for a hug and he said "I don't give hugs but I can shake your hand" I wanted to just crawl in a whole and never come out. I couldn't believe he was acting like that. During summer school I was waiting for my friend and he walked RIGHT BY ME and didn't even acknowledge me. That night I cryed myself to sleep =[ I like him more than I can ever explain, I just don't want what we HAD to go away. I do care for him, and yet he has a shitty way of telling me he cares for me too. I remember once I was getting a "D" in one of my classes and he asked who my teacher for that subject was and I told him. THE VERY NEXT DAY MY GRADE WAS AN "A-". I never mentioned it to him but I KNOW he had something to do with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): I have a crush on my ninth grade science teacher
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): hi
my situation is as same as urs. i really love my teacher. now i am nineteen and he's about 28. He knows that i have a crush on him. In class he tries to ignore me. He doesn't look at me. However, i find out that he sometimes lookes at me when i don't look at him.
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reader, Lady Aunt  +, writes (27 January 2008):
Speek to him privatly after school and ask him why he's ignoring you and why he wont look at you.
Explain to him that it was just a crush.
Explain to him that you just want to have a teacher - student realatinship.
If he doesnt give you a satisfying answer just literally cry and scream at him that the crush isn't there anymore and you want to be friends.
I've had lots of experience
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Omg me too, my music teacher is like the only teacher that makes music seem fun, before i got him i would jsut sit and yawn at classical music and tht but my teacher makes it seem fun and interstin and if anyone trys to teach me music i jsut find it really boring because it aint him, then again i dno if it jsut the fact tht i really like the dude so i sit and listen to him , wheras with any other teacher in my head im like ''omg, arent you done talkin already!
Anyways, let me get to the point lol Yeah i think he knows, coz theres this guy at my skl and my mate has bsaically told him that he is hot and he knows tht she likes him anyways as all the teachers know and he has been told off of a couple, whenever he seems her he seems egdy and jsut looks away and says hi (her name) very quickly, but whenever she talks to him about general stuff he tend to answer her then move on its as if he doesnt want to be seen talkin to her incase a rumour breaks out, i dno lol but anyways, i was on my teachers log in one day on the comp (he lets me do that sumtimes) and i seen sum private letters and stuff on his comp, and it was as if he was gettin a job next month and i told sum of mates wht i had seen and i dno if they told anyone else, but these group of girls who are like ultra pally wae this dude would be omg, i jsut remebered we have to go tell mr (his name) about sumthin sumone has been sayin about him, and tht got me and my mate para and he went funny with me and wouldnt look at me in the corridor and i was really worried that he would think that i was goin down his files then tellin half the skl but, wht i done (i know this isnt the same as your suituation but i hope it helps you out) i went to him with my mate and said have you heard anythin about me and my mate that concerns you??? and he looked at me and said no, i havent y? and i said coz ppl are sayin tht blah blah blah ... ( i told him tht ppl were sayin tht he was leaving and blammed it on me and i thought th he thought it was me) and then he was like no i havent heard that but thanks amy and i was like no probs but it wasnt me i mean i woud never ever do that, and weve bn fine since!
jsut get the teacher to one side and say have you heard anything about me that concerns you? if he says no, then go ohh good i mean ppl are goin around sayin i like you?? i mean no offence sir but your a tad too old for me?
we okay?
you can still like him but jsut say that and jsut get him kl with you again
soz if this comment seemed pointless, mail more at anytime if you wish for anymore my advice
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reader, prosthetichearts +, writes (27 December 2007):
prosthetichearts is verified as being by the original poster of the question I've tried tutors! No one has ever been able to get math through my thick skull better than he could. ;__;
I've made such a mistake.
I wish I could go back in time and prevent myself from ever having him as a teacher.
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reader, truly_unique  +, writes (25 December 2007):
i think the teacher is doing the best he can under the circumstances. i think it would be best to just let him be. if you are struggling in maths then mayb invest in a tutor because by asking him for help you would be putting him in a very akward position. i think the best advice anyone can give you is just leave him alone..if your crush lasts until after your schooling mayb then you can talk to him about this whole situation
best of luck
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reader, truly_unique +, writes (25 December 2007):
i think the teacher is doing the best he can under the circumstances. i think it would be best to just let him be. if you are struggling in maths then mayb invest in a tutor because by asking him for help you would be putting him in a very akward position. i think the best advice anyone can give you is just leave him alone..if your crush lasts until after your schooling mayb then you can talk to him about this whole situation
best of luck
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reader, prosthetichearts +, writes (24 December 2007):
prosthetichearts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't have him anymore as a teacher, I had him last year. I don't want to be around him all the time, but it would be nice having someone to be there to help me in math when I need it... no one has ever been able to help me as well as he could, so not being able to talk to him doesn't help much xD;
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (24 December 2007):
Your teacher has acted as professionally as he can and is choosing to keep a safe distance from you. If you have a respect for him show him by having a good attainment in your work - not by wanting to be around him all of the time. By hanging around him you are making it very difficult for him to do his job as efficiently as he can.
By achieving the very best that you can this will be the very best compliment you could give him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2007): Ask him if he under esitmates you as a student, and just hint to him (if u dnt wanna acutally say it to him) that u think he is a really good teacher and u respect him and tht u hope u and him could maintain a good teacher-pupil relationship thorughtout the time in your school.
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reader, prosthetichearts +, writes (23 December 2007):
prosthetichearts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to but I have no idea how D:I can't be alone with him without rumours beginning to fly and without both of us feeling extremely awkward...
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reader, Toldyahso +, writes (23 December 2007):
If you really care about him, leave him alone. Is your crush worth his job and the subsequent publicity about you?
Can you imagine your future husband or kids asking you why there are Google stories about you f&\*ing around with your teacher? Or how about a future boss? Who's going to want to hire someone who can't control themselves?
Do yourself and the teacher a favor. Ignore him. Get on with your life.
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reader, prosthetichearts +, writes (23 December 2007):
prosthetichearts is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way, I think I should mention that I really want to get back onto better terms with him primarily because he is such a great person, & I struggle so much in math, and when he came along it seemed like a world of opportunities opened up to me because math was beginning to make sense. I really want him as a teacher one more time before leaving highschool, and if I do by chance get my wish I don't want things to be awkward... becuase that won't be much of a help! Honestly, my math teacher this year isn't doing too much for me, my parents aren't, my friends aren't, ex-teachers aren't, tutors aren't... he's the only person who can make it make sense, so you can kind of see where I'm coming from... right?
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reader, uhhhhey +, writes (23 December 2007):
 Just don't act awkward or stare at him and stuff like that. It'll make him feel uncomfortable. Act to him like you would act with any other person, and things will be fine with time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): He probably does know and is now keeping his distance, as if rumors circulate, his job could be on the line! You should talk to him find out whats wrong! Say you dont want to ruin your good student/teacher harmless relationship.good luck x tell us what happens xx
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