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writes:hello dear cupid, i am 22 and i have a strange problem.... I hate my dad! i know he is my god and my caretaker...but still i hate him because he cannot offer me the lavish lifestyle that has been my dream although he has always provided me with the best he can ...i have been born and brought up in a town...i have lived city lifestyles and i feel chocked here in this small town....he is content with whatever he has and where ever he lives and he is not keen to grow and doesnt bother about anything .. just shows the dreams and does not do anything.. we doent own a car , we dont have furnished homes.....sometimes he acts silly and stubborn and appears a child to me and i hate him more!! i know he has many wishes inside but i just hate it when he cant afford it ...i am not being childish i am helpless :( Reply to this Question
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reader, javaria  +, writes (7 August 2009):
Just imagine urself at ur dads place and consider u as ur son, I guess u didn’t bother that what ur dad feels like!!!!!!Y don’t u try to achieve every thing urself???Just try to find happiness and contentment in every minor thing.Lavish lifestyles are just wastage of money…..I know it’s easy for every one to say like that, but still I will say always go for positive attitude and make ur approach constructive, as ur negative approach is only destructive for u and ur dads feelings so plz make ur attitude positive!!!!!!!
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 April 2009):
 I believe this individual is a child, and misstated their age. The way this had been written is not that of a 22 year old person.
What is your real age, and where are you from? What do you consider a lavish lifestyle? The problem I have with your question is your abnormal desire for the lifestyle. Watch the news, some who are extremely rich aren't happy. Why? They believe wealth can create happiness. It cannot. If you're not already happy with who you are the lifestyle you live would not be important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): I think your pathetic. There are people in the world who have lost everything and you complain about not having a lavish lifestyle. Grow up...end of story!
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reader, pebble  +, writes (26 April 2009):
 You are being extremely childish. You're an adult and you sound like a stroppy teenager.
Do you earn your own money? If not, why not? And why is it up to your father to provide everything for you? If you are unhappy with your life do something about it yourself and stop acting like a spoilt brat.
You really do sound like a child.
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reader, mrs.smith81608 +, writes (26 April 2009):
Wow! Really? You are a grown woman between 22-25 and you are wanting your DADDY to still take care of you? Like many others have said-the American "dream" is to work for what you want-not be a grown woman and still depending on daddy for what you want. If you're not Paris Hilton or Tori Spelling-who's daddy's were rich enough to keep their daughters kept after their 18th birthday and even after college graduation age, then you have to get a J-O-B!
I suggest that you sit at your local Social/Human service office and see some of the people who struggle day to day, even with employment and they still can't pay their neccessity bills and provide for their families. Then after you spend a couple of hours there observing-hang out at your local unemployment office to see how many NEW applicants there are from loosing their jobs that day.
After all of that-take your butt to the nearest college and enroll yourself in some courses to eventually enable you to become a "self-kept" woman.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (26 April 2009):
 How important do you think these material things he's not offering you are? Are they really worth more than love? I think yours whole perspective sounds very shallow.
Anyway you are 22, if you really want those things, why don't you get a job and take charge of your own life rather than relying on your dad for everything, which he cannot provide? He is a grown man and can live in the way he likes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): At 22 you should really have a better grasp on decency. I know tons of loving, caring parents who wouldn't allow their "child" to live with them and continue mooching after they turned 18., especially if they weren't being helpful or appreciative. One day you'll have a child and realize the endless amounts of sacrifices and hard times that you will go through to give him/her a nice home and food every day. You're not a child... if you want something better, then go get it.
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reader, say_anything +, writes (26 April 2009):
 it is a dad's job to look after you, support you and give you a loving home; it isn't a dad's job to fulfill your every whim, especially as you are in adulthood. it's your responsibility now to build the life you want and it's unfair for you to resent him because you don't have everything you want. you're an adult, you need to provide for yourself. your father may be very happy with his lot, and you as a separate individual with different aspirations and values may not: that is fair enough. but you cannot hold him accountable for your dissatisfaction. the sense of reward and pride you will feel when you achieve your goals yourself will be much better than the feeling of having everything handed to you on a plate.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (26 April 2009):
 At your age there is no reason why you shouldn't crave possessions like cars and a nice home. If you want to live in the city, move there and get a job. I moved out of home at 18 and I have largely had to fight my own financial battles ever since - my parents could have afforded to pay for lots of things, but they didn't and I don't mind. Achieving something for yourself like buying a home is a good feeling. You should not expect your parents to give you money - where is the pride in that? Instead get your own money and then you can buy whatever you want. It is time to channel those thoughts of wants and desires into ambition and motivation by educating yourself, working up the career ladder and saving your money.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Get a job! You want that life style... You pay for it! Seriously are you honestly 22-25? Or if you really want to be a kept women, find yourself a rich man.
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reader, mint +, writes (26 April 2009):
 sorry to be the one to say this but i think you are being childish... your dad is trying to support you but maybe its time for you to go out there and support yourself...chase your dreams yourself!!
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reader, Mikados are lush! +, writes (26 April 2009):
 Sorry, but I beg to differ, I think you are being childish.If you want cars etc, and feel closed in where you live, then go out and get something else! You're 22 not 12. If your dad is the stay at home type and he's happy, thats his choice. You're old enough to stand on your own 2 feet and not rely on good ol dad to provide your luxuries for you. I will hazard a guess that he has actually done TOO much for you, afterall, thats what makes someone spoilt.I also think you know all that, but you prefer the easy ride. Stand on your own 2 feet and go out in the big wide world and get whay you want yourself.Grow up time.xxxxxxxxxx
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