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writes:hey! The situation im in dosent make much sense to me so im sorry if its slightly confusing for you guys...ive been with my boyfriend for nearly ten months and it had been !Amazing! we feel so strongly for each other and tell each other absolutly everything. So its been really great =] and i always thought we would be together for a pretty big part of our lives. But recently ive been feeling differently about him, and i really want to know what it means??! i dont feel attracted to him as much as i used to, i do like him more than just attraction though... Anyway, and when we talk on the phone i always end up not talking that much and (as awful as it sounds) not caring about the conversation as much as i used to. He went to scotland this weekend and he called me all the time telling me how much he missed me. But when i thought about it, i didnt really miss him! My friends said that Me and him just arnt working as well as we used to and these things happen. They suggested a break up but, And this is where it gets confusing for me, the very thought of breaking up with him puts me close to tears! it is the last thing i would want to do.. so why am i feeling the way i am about him!?!?Me and him have tryed spending time together and going places. We've Also tryed spending time away from each other, but i still feel the same way. How could i feel the way i do but then feel so devastated when i think of breaking up with him?i dont get it.anyway, sorry ive rambled on alot. I hope someone can give me an answer!thankyou x
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (26 April 2009):
 I have felt like that, but in my case after a while it blew over. I would give it a few more weeks before you make any major decisions, as your feelings may sway one way or the other. Is there a possibility that someone else may have come into your life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): Hiii, I feel exactly the same as you! Apart from I've been with my boyf over 3 years! I love him I really do but something’s not right anymore but I don't know what, the thought of breaking up with him also brings me 2 tears though. You should definitely try talking 2 him! It might help I talked 2 my BF though on a few occasions and he says he'll fix it but to be honest nothings changed. I also suggested going on a break but it lasted less than a day because I couldn’t not be with him. You could suggest say a week break and see how it goes? If you miss him you know it’s meant to be. Basically you just have to put a lot of time and effort in to it and you’ve gotta remember that everything wont always be perfect. Don’t just finish with him though it seems like you really mean a lot to each other so you shouldn’t chuck it away without you being sure of yourself. Just try to work at it if it was amazing before surely it can be amazing again.Really hope it works out for you hun x
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (26 April 2009):
This is common and i see it as the honeymoon period of your relationship, the beging is brilliant, nothing goes wrong and your still adjusting to each other, but after that time you get so used to each other its almost like a routine. You obviously dont want it to end so next on the cards is to work at it with the support of each other, talk to him and get his input he obviously thinks a lot of you and you can work from there. i dont think time apart is what you need, you just need to get back what you once had you want it enough as to not throw it away so go to the next few steps together. You dont mention if hes aware how your feeling but i really feel by talking to him youll gain a lot more that you think.
hope you can find that happy future, hope it all works out best of luck x
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