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writes:Hi, I am going to re-send this question as I have only had one answer and the answer that I did get only gave one - very strong - personal bias. Does anyone feel differently about this issue please? If the woman in question was otherwise a perfect match for you, would this issue be a deal-breaker or would you be understanding about it?This is a question for guys to answer please. Imagine if you met and started a relationship with an early forties female who looked between five and ten years younger, very good looking and who had had one child when she was previously married at a very young age (now grown up and living away from home). The woman in question is a very natural looking and basically a really nice person with sound values who has worked really hard, been a great mum and kept herself in shape. She has a really interesting career ahead of her and a wicked sense of humour. Would you be shocked and would you judge her badly if she told you further down the line in the developing relationship that she had (very small) breast implants to counteract the effect of breastfeeding? At what stage in the relationship would you expect her to tell you? And if it was clear that she really had only had the implants to counteract the effects of breastfeeding - ie. not to enlarge her breasts, just to perk them up a bit - would you feel differently towards her than a woman who had natural breasts or only had breast implants in order to make them larger? My friends and I are wondering - this is how they describe me but I am very confused because I have the chance to embark on a relationship with someone that I am really falling far, but I sense he is the kind of guy who would be repulsed by plastic surgery and I can't pluck up the courage to go for it through fear of being judged on this issue.
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reader, i_like_boobs  +, writes (20 December 2011):
I WOULD DEFF NOT !!! i like breasts with inplants or not, and mostly with, are the ones who had a reason to have them... my wife had them too, and i rather have her breasts with implants then without (breastfed 2 kids and left her chest like pancakes). Im glad she took the desicion herself to have them. But if the woman hold it back till further in the relationship then i would ask myself if she is reliable enough for the future.
i dont get it when men screams they re against implants, they re liers, but natural is always best, but if that fails heal implants!!!!
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reader, KittieS +, writes (15 September 2011):
 It's your body, so as long as you feel comfortable and happy then your partner should be happy too.
I don't have any friends who have had cosmetic surgery (that I'm aware of anyway!) but of the men that I know, honestly the good ones just want their ladies to be happy and confident!
I occasionally colour my hair to boost my natural colour, or use fake tan to give myself a glow - you had your boobs done, to make you feel better about yourself how can anyone judge or critise you for that (I would do the same after a baby!)
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (14 September 2011):
I'm a female and though I know you asked for men, I'm gonna chime in anyway.
People's issues with breast implants usually have to do with the mindset that caused one to get them. Therefore, someone who got breast implants to counteract damage shouldn't be judged the same way as a girl who got breast implants to simply get big boobs.
A friend of mine got breast implants because of a preventive cancer surgery that left her basically without boobs. She was just 21 at the time. I was happy she got them because they made her feel normal and look normal, just like the way she was before the big surgery--except for the scarring, that is. It helped her move on with her life.
However, I have absolutely no sympathy for a girl who went and got breast implants because she thought a DD cup would make her hotter than her current B cup. Just like I have no sympathy for someone who got her face rearranged while there was not anything wrong with it in the first place. I would understand why a guy would be put off by vanity like this. However, you do not fall into that category in my opinion.
As long as you're honest about the whole thing and the reason why I do not see why any man would reject you, especially because you have tons of other attractive qualities. Don't worry and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): Thanks guys! I feel completely reassured and have regained my sense of humour on this one. For all I know, he probably LOVES implants and, if not...I can maybe persuade him to love mine! You guys are real life-savers, thank you so much.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (13 September 2011):
 it would not repulse me, but i would hope she would be honest about things up font and not lie . lying or covering up is no way to build on a relationship. as far as the breast implants go for me i prefer natural breast,but it would not repulse me in any way for a perking up. i hope no one would judge you for that. sounds like you have good qualities and more to you than just breast.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 I'd judge a woman a bit if I found out that she had breast implants, I'm not gonna lie... but it wouldn't "repulse" me, I'd probably still give her a chance.
Your case is different though. You did it to counteract damage from breastfeeding... that's different to getting big implants because of poor self esteem or to attract attention. I really wouldn't worry about him judging you harshly for this.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (13 September 2011):
 Whoever is so sensitive to things like this, so much so that they would be repulsed, in my experience at least, is not worth it. You had one very small surgery. Aside from the obvious physical change, what else has it done?
Who would judge you so harshly? And would you really fall for the type of man who would? Have faith in your taste in men, perhaps you have found a good one. How well do you know this man? You SENSE he would be repulsed, but has he ever shown you evidence that he would be?
I hope that helps.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 September 2011):
You have far, far more interesting qualities written down in your post than just your 'breasts'. If a guy actually judges you on something like this, then he's not really worth your time.
You're a woman, not a pair of breasts.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 September 2011):
 oh goodness... your breasts do NOT define you. AND after he gets to know you he may be just fine with it.
I think you are worrying about NOTHING to be honest but here's my sad tale:
My boyfriend met me AFTER I had lost a huge amount of weight... (like more than I currently weigh) and I had terribly horrible sagging breasts (more like sacks) and terrible horribly belly skin (along with butt and thighs)
He met me BEFORE I had plastic surgery. I had a tummy tuck and I had a breast lift but no implants. I now have small natural breasts. My man loves me no matter what but he talks often of my having implants added the next time I have plastics (for the back butt and thighs)...
what a man loves about a woman is not what he sees in private... it's more about the whole woman and your implants for fullness DO NOT define you as a person.
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