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writes: While looking at the history on the computer i have found quite a lot of porn sites which my husband has been looking at, i dont mind him having a look and we have looked at them together before but what worries me is that some of them were ones that you could talk to the women involved. This is what worries me. He has not mentioned looking at them which is odd for him, this all may be nothing but does anyone have any ideas of how to bring up the subject to find out if he has been chatting with them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): Hey...I think you should bring this up as soon as you can, because you don't want it to end up with you not trusting him at all. Just bring it up in a conversation between the two of you, but don't act too upset or angry at him. Tell him how you feel and I'm sure he'll understand. Talk to him...it's the best way of sorting out this worry. Good luck! Cara -x-
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Try this....Dear Hog=hn, I have noticed lately that you have been supporting an industry that thrives on using women of whom 90%+ were victims of childhoood sexual abuse....yet this doesnt concern you. I have noticed you seem to feel that despite my sharing my body and soul with you this is not enough and that the body of any young female will do to get you off...It is clear to me there is nothing special about me to you. I see that you are a man of litrtle integrity and not someone I want to be the father of my children, therefore please understand that I have taken my share of belongings from our home and my lawyer will be in constact with you shortly...PS There a bottle of lube and a porn mag on the bedside table....enjoy.'
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (16 January 2007):
 You need to bring this up as soon as possible or it will cause friction and will come out at the wrong time and cause even more problems. You sound quite understanding and seem to accept that this is just something men like to do. However, the sites where they can talk to other women is another story. If you are uncomfortable with this, make sure you get it sorted as soon as possible.
Don't complicate things by waiting for the right moment in conversation. Sit him down when you're alone and say you need to talk about something serious and you need him to be honest with you. Ask him the questions you want answering calmly and listen to his response, don't jump down his throat if he does admit something: you want the whole story.
I hope, for your sake, that you get the answers you want from this chat. If he were so nervous about you finding out, he would have deleted the 'history' section on the computer. If you look at these together, he probably thinks it won't be a problem and, you never know, he may have just innocently found one where you may speak to the women but didn't do so.
Good luck and let me know how it goes.
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