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writes: I have caught my husband viewing internet porn and confronted him. He said he would stop. That worked for a month and then I caught him again. This in it's self isn't a problem, but we don't have sex as often as I would like. I feel he prefers that to the real thing with me. Should I be concerned?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2006): M'lady - coming from someone who struggles with pornography himself - this is NOT good. The best thing you can do for him (besides God coming into his life) is purchase an internet filter for the PC. I have one, and while NONE are foolproof, www.bsafe.com has about the best one out there!
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reader, israel +, writes (21 June 2006):
dear i would advice you to understand your husband and mybe give him the porn style he will he will probaly start enjoying sex with you than watching on internet you should join him mybe it will boost your sex life.cheers and i wish you all the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2006): I think you should talk to him and maybe he would like to experiment, trying new positions and foreplay.I dont think you should be concerned as many men and boys like to watch pornography as a stimulous, so thisis not unusual for a man. A great way is to get revenge and see how he likes it when the tables are turned he finds you on the pornography.You may find this leads to better and more frequent sex , as this may turn him on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2006): I find your posting so sad, hun. Limited use of porn will sometimes enhance the marriage bed amd make sex fun between a couple. Not so, in your case. It seems your husband has a problem and now it's yours because it seems he finds porn a more desirable, attractive place to exist. To crave solitary sex with images on a computer screen means he's found a place where fantasy is real to him and he's overlooking the real people who love him and real relationships. Any man who prefers "getting his rocks off ' to internet porn rather than making love to the warm and loving woman in his bed, is a huge concern in any marriage. The consequence is a man who views these images overly much is it does diminish lovemaking in the marriage bed. Over time, when he does make love to you..a woman can't tell if he's making love to her or the silicone porn star he just viewed moments before. What happens then, is you start feeling objectified and used. So yes, you are right to feel concerned and I am sorry.. and he needs help. If you have children, you need to protect them from your husband’s behaviors. Your husband may be addicted to continuously being titillated on the net and he's not thinking clearly. Internet porn addictions are pervasive these days and they are destroying marriages. Get tough, take a stand and if I were you, I would take steps to getting rid of the internet connection to your home and see if you can persuade your husband to get into counseling for a potential porn addiction.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2006): I think you should discuss your feelings with your partner, you feel you are not having sex enough, maybe your partner feels the same and is scared to make you feel bad if he brings it up. Organsie drinks to chill out some sexy underwear and have an intimate night and great sex. And discuss your feelings with each other it may hurt or feel awkward at first but it will be worth it in the end, if you then both know what you want. Good Luck
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (8 June 2006):
 dear reader. to be honest with you half of me is saying don't be worried at all may-be he is picking up a few idea's. going off sex shouldn't be as big as it is but i know how you feel don't worry may-be give it a couple of weeks and try something new something wild and crazy so his not expecting it. on the other hand may-be he is getting bord it happens to a lot of people so please don't think its you. try and talk to him without going off the rails tell him how this is making you feel or you could join in a watch you could both benefit out of it.hope things get better i wish you luck with this xxx
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reader, sibaan +, writes (8 June 2006):
 no not really maybe its just a stage. why dont you try spicing things up or trying little outfits? try and make his fantasy come through because that is obviously the prob. he must have a sexual fantasy and now you must make it happen... think about it...
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