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writes:Guys, would you date a girl who didnt like oral sex?? I hate giving guys oral sex, its a massive turn off for me (Im actually not a fan of recieving it either) but my guy friends were talking the other day and said they could never date a girl who wouldnt go down on him so do all guys feel the same? Also, are different sex positions a big thing for you - do you prefer girls who will experiment with lots of different positions?Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): actually my BF always ask me that and I think most of the guys like it .. and I thought it gross but it's not and my man worth to give him the pleasure that he need
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reader, kcmoney  +, writes (15 June 2009):
It amazes me at the number of judgemental people answering this question. I agree, no one should be made to do something that they do not want to do. Personally, I could not be with a girl who did not like oral sex. I know that I would be left unsatisfied. No harm, no foul. I would submit that we are just not right for each other. This was an issue between my very first girlfriend and myself. She LOVED to receive but refused to give. And no, just knowing she was pleased was not enough for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): I have mixed opinions on oral. I like giving it to my BF at certain times, but i have to be in that certain mood. It's not that it think its gross, or that i dont like doing it for him, its just that sometimes, its not really easy to have a dick shoved in and out of your mouth and be happy. If you DONT like giving oral, then DO NOT do it. you dont like it and no man is worth making you do something you are against. ive dated guys that could care less for it, im sure youll find someone too.
and guys, please go suck one, seriously, before you get mad at your woman for not doing it as often as you want, or even at all if they dont want. whens the last time you sucked on a penis? thats what i thought, dont judge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Unless he doesn't like it either, the longer you're together the more frustrated he'll get. According to other posts, there are guys out there who think alike. A lot of relationship experts agree that sexual satisfaction is a major part of a healthy long-term relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): I've been married for 25 years and I am 47. I love my wife very much, but she hates oral sex, both ways. I was young and inexperienced then, and if someone else offered me oral sex in a relationship, I would take it. We don't have sex very often now because I know I will be dissapointed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): Ironic. I'm a guy who'd actually rather be with a girl who doesn't give oral. My last gf loved it (both giving and receiving), but go figure
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): oral sex is AMAZING! and i would honestly not date a girl who refused to do it. Its not just the feeling you get from it, its the emotional feeling that "she wants me to feel good" type of thing... its psycologiacal! lol, mind the spelling!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): When I married my wife, we were sexually active, but we had never had oral sex. That didn't bother me. After we were married I discovered that she had engaged in oral sex (among other things) with another man while we were engaged and I was in Army training. That bothered me very much. I can honestly say that there is never a time when we make love that if she won't give me oral sex that I don't think of that other guy. I can't help wondering if I had given her oral when we were dating if it would have somehow been insurance against her cheating when I was drafted. Anyhow if I had to do it over, I would definitely have oral sex, talk about how I feel about oral sex and marry her before I had to leave. I know that others will have opinions about what I should have done when I found out, but love is love and forgiving is a higher calling....it's just forgetting that is hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): i say stick to your guns - if you dont like it, dont do it -ask any guy if they would like to suck a cock - i dont think so - so why should you have to!!
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reader, Dr D +, writes (1 October 2007):
personally i dont think oral is necessary and i enjoy it, if a girl doesnt want to then you cant force her its just a)ignorant and b) disrespectful. for any guy out there that wouldnt date a girl just because she doesnt like giving head, dont think about what she can give sexually think about what your life could be like with her and if you have to think of the sex side theres more to sex than oral.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): My partner enjoys me giving him oral sex but he doesnt ask me to do it..he feels its like humiliating me...i adviced him that i like doing it for him and i have no problem doing it.. still he doesnt ask me for it..However when i offer he seems to enjoy it!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007): Something for all you confused people to think about:I'm a guy, and I don't get emotionally attached with just any woman. I enjoy getting head as much as sex itself. I would simply not get emotionally attached to a woman unless she enjoyed giving me head. No hard feelings...that's just what would happen. If I loved a woman, I would never make her do something she dislikes...but I would never fall in love or be compatible with a woman who didn't like to give head in the first place.There. All your questions answered.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2007): No, I wouldn't date a girl who didn't like oral sex. I like it a lot and would prefer to find a girl who did as well. If she didn't we wouldn't be very compatible.
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reader, babsy  +, writes (23 March 2007):
My boyfriend and I have very satisfying sex - WITHOUT oral sex. We both don't like it much. Even if he was just saying he doesn't to make me feel better - then what a man! A relationship is give and take - don't force someone to give something they are not in a place to give. If you do you will be taking more from them than a blow job - trust me. To say you can't date a person who wont do that - wow - you are the one who will end up single!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): I'm agreeing with Dr.Pete here. You can't generalize and say that all guys love receiving oral. In any case, u shouldn't make a big deal of it cos you're definitely sure to meet a guy who enjoys the same stuff u do. In my opinion, any guy who makes a girl do something she finds disgusting, for his own pleasure, doesn't care for the girl at all and isn't worth the time she's wasting on him.
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reader, star* +, writes (14 March 2007):
ok..for you males who have replied...how about you go down on a guy and see if you like giving him head before judging her and telling her to just get on with it anyway. and no ones saying that a males body is gross but giving head can be a turn off.... hun, really, if you dont feel comfortable doing it then don't!xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): No im not saying a blokes body is gross (although i dont exactly find penises attractive), i just really do not enjoy giving oral to a guy. Ive it a few times before but i hated it. I dont like the taste, the smell, and im worried im going to gag.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007):
If yoy are sending the message that the guy's body is some how gross, then that is a realy turn off and I dont think I'd date you (unless this was some sort of mental block from a past experience).
Are you saying that you'll never give oral, or you just dont enjoy it? Are you will to do other semi-freaky stuff? If so I dont think you'll be undateable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): i like the way its nearly all girls that have answered this even tho the poster is askin for guys opinions!! personally i love oral and if a girl wont give it to me then i can see me having a furture with me. maybe u should do it anyway even if u dont like it as i bet guys do things to please u even if they dont like it
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (14 March 2007):
Ok first off, dont take a single bit of notice of the anonymous reader below who said is was strange that you dont like giving oral. Its not strange at all that you dont like it, i hate giving it to. Its horrible, we dont all have loose jaws like that anonymous girl below. If you dont like it dont do it. You may find your opinions change of the matter, or they may stay as they are. You dont like it, dont do it. And lets face it, even if a guy didnt like it, hes hardly going to admit that to his male friends is he. They would make fun. Experimenting with positions - its just finding what you like and your comfortable with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Some people like it, some don't, that doesn't make you odd though. If a bloke doesn't like the fact that you don't like it then he is too shallow for you and you deserve better. Life shouldn't be centred around sex alone. Don't let it bother you and be firm and don't be pushed into doing it. If a bloke says he is off because you don't do it then tell him to buggar off.
Take care
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I'm no guy, but I'm sure that there are plenty of guys out there who won't mind that much that they're not getting any head. If a guy loves you, he won't push you for anything like that if he knows you're uncomfortable about it.
And how much can a person really experiment with positions? I mean that basically there's only around 5 of them, but with a few variations (not counting anything as extreme as having sex while hanging from a italian chandelier now... ), so there's not much experimenting to do. It might be good for you to try something different once in a while if you find sex getting boring, but it's up to you.
My general rule about sex is "If it doesn't feel good, then don't do it". It's as simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): Are these guy's single by any chance? I wouldn't go as far to say they were losers but they seem pretty inexperienced at relationships. You have to remember that all guys are different in the same way that you are different to other girls. For example some girls are very submissive and love to give oral sex where others hate even the thought of it. It's exactly the same with experimentation. Some people, guys and girls, are comfortable and enjoy experimenting different things, whereas others are perhaps less comfortable and prefer to stick to just the basics. So it's not a case of men and women liking different things but rather people as individuals having different preferences.
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reader, star* +, writes (14 March 2007):
most of my mates are guys so i more or less know what they like. all of them do enjoy oral sex but most are more interested in the girl herself rather than what she'll do in the bedroom. im not a fan of oral sex either tbh, i dont find pleasure in it..and quite frankly i think going down on a guy is just a horrible experience...i say stick to your guns...any decent guy wouldnt mind if you refused to go down on him
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I think it’s up to you if you like it or not. Its a personal choice. Find the reasons why you don’t like it and them compromise from there. Personaly you must be doing it with the wrong guy, it’s the best part about sex! (it last longer lol)
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I know I'm not a guy but this is ridiculous! If a guy was worth anything and had any respect for someone he liked, he would not judge her for not doing something and would not force her into anything she didn't like to do.
These guys are loser and, if they really liked a girl, they would not stop seeing her because of this, it's just stupid. They would be bothered, don't get me wrong, I know men like it, but to avoid a woman because she won't do it is silly.
What about all the men who hate giving us oral? Nobody complains about that (except their girlfriend, probably!) They need to look in the mirror and ask themselves, are they really that important that a girl would compromise what she likes/dislikes for them? Doubtful.
You stick to your guns: if this isn't something you want to do in the bedroom, don't do it. A man who is worth your time will understand. It's just like anything in the bedroom, if one doesn't want to do it, it doesn't get done, simple. It's not like there's a set of rules of the basic things that must be done to a partner, it's all about personal preference.
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