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writes:Alpha males of the great ape species beat up the other males. This is how they become the alpha males. After they've won, they don't worry about getting females. They can chill out and have whatever female they want.There are guys who are confident and can get almost whatever girl they want. If they didn't beat up other guys, and they aren't rich, super good looking, or famous, what must be going through their minds to make them feel like alpha males and not feel the need to chase girls? Reply to this Question
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reader, Share Bear +, writes (8 December 2009):
 Hmm- well to be attractive to ALL women, you'll really have to cover all bases...
So basically, become a lumberjack and a contemporary equivalent of Renaissance Man. You will need to be educated- at least to post-graduate/ phd level I'd think. You will need to be worldly wise- so you'd better be well travelled, and culturally educated. Obviously, you’ll also need to be well-spoken, articulate and sensitive, display good manners and treat all women, men and minority groups with respect.
Clearly a substantial amount of physical fitness will be required to capture a certain market- the best way to achieve this would probably be to partake in a few adventures- ideally Indiana Jones style; climb a few mountains and cross a few canyons.
And of course you'll need to be financially independent. Alpha males don’t rely on dad to pay for their cinema tickets. So it'd help to find some treasure at the end of your adventures too. Do watch out for boulders though.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly; you'll need to Stop Trying so hard (at least unless it happened to be genuine interest and affection for one lady in particular, rather than to achieve universal adoration from ladies en masse). So, unfortunately, all of the above efforts will be wholly wasted unless you do this solely for your own personal development, rather than as the motivation to attract swarms of young ladies.
Or in a nutshell: learn your own mind; be your own man.
Oh- and learn guitar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): On more than one occasion, I've had women tell me what they like about me and high on that list was "a strong presence that I can't really explain."
Women pick up on body language and unconscious behaivior far more than men do. I've never been attracted to a woman because of her "strong presence".
Women might say and think they want all kinds of things, but what they are ATTRACTED to, in my experience & like Male20 says, is men who are confident in themselves.
Some good advice I can give you is don't give away your respect to other men. Don't needlessly submit to them. Don't ask for their permission needlessly or apologize for things that aren't really important. Still be polite. Don't be an ass. But make people earn your respect. Don't be too eager to please. Be a man.
Some men will pick up on this and will give you their respect flat out because they're intimidated. Some will see you as on the same "level" and will respect you for that, as a peer. Women will most likely be attracted to this quality as long as (and I stress) you don't act like an ass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Well, it's definitely BS that you can't change. For humans, so much takes place in the mind.
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reader, 2boysmom  +, writes (8 December 2009):
I think you've been reading and taking things on the internet too literally.There's someone wonderful for everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Be confident, decisive and humorousand confidence come throuh knowledge and expericancesome men are born Alphasand some learn it..
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reader, Male20 +, writes (8 December 2009):
ok ok i think this is what you are getting at so here goes.
an alpha male demonstrates all the 'desirable' aspects to the females concious and subconcious mind.
in nature and natural terms women desire someone that can look after them, this is demonstrated through much more than what a man says to a women.
an alpha male will have the body language, mind set and attitude that is desirable but the main word is confident.
Been confident and feeling confident thoughts will be displayed through all these other aspects.
alpha males take the lead, they are confident, can be funny and use playful jokes around women, feel confident and somewhat comfortable around women.
There is als a myth that women like 'bad-boys' ok so here is my explaination on that also..
it isnt the bad-boy status they like they like the mysteriousness and the impression that this 'bad-boy' keeps them guessing to a certain extent.
the main quality to show a female is that you can be happy with or without her in your life.
wouldnt you agree?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Stop thinking we are all animals, or thats what you'll get in life. Only a small portion of women will be impressed if a guy beats up another guy, and most will probably we scared away by such a behavior. Also, you have a very twisted view of women: we are not a "thing" an "alpha-male" can claim as a prize. We are individuals. Treat us right and with respect and you might get a good girlfriend.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 December 2009):
I wouldn't consider myself an alpha male. I'm not always confident, I'm not rich (though I am trying), wouldn't say I was famous or super good looking anything like that. Yet after a lot of failure and being hurt, I found a very fine lady who I adore. Not because I was an alpha male, but because I was myself and I treated her well and I had aims and goals in my life that will hopefully take me somewhere. Look at all those alpha males. They don't stay with the same female, so they're never really happy. And the women that date them don't always end up that happy either. Be yourself, make sure your life is going in a direction and when you meet a girl, treat her very well.
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