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writes:hi there, i cheated on my partner earlier this year. I feel like a slut for doing it. He is always saying to me that im still cheating. But im not. I made a massive mistake once. Im not gonna do it again. Im scared that he'll leave me. i wanna try and make it up to him to prove that im worth it. I love him sooo much. He is always also saying that i dont care, that i dont love him. But he's wrong. Any help would be great. Reply to this Question
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reader, kerizz  +, writes (14 April 2010):
 i think why did you cheat in 1st place how can you be trusted when your not worthy of this take your punishment n learn not to be so weak
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni want to thank u guys for sharing your opinions. we have been together for over 3yrs and im hoping it lasts a lifetime. I love him to bits. But again thank u everybody for ur opinions.Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): I was cheated on also, he will never trust you again, let him go.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (12 April 2010):
 by the way, i forget to say.. forgive your self. thats the first thing you must do, you did not do a crime! so theres no reason for you to suffer all your life. theres husband and wife out there and cheating to each other, so that means, you are also human being who is not perfect on this earth. and beside you are still single, so cheer up" ..
forgive your self and move on to your present life. and then the rest is follow from my first comment.. good luck
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (12 April 2010):
I disagree with the last poster. He has every right to seem as though he is stringing you along. He doesn't owe you a definate answer. See now because you did what you did 3 things have taken place. First he now has to wrestle emotionally with how he feels and how you betrayed him. Two you don't have a right to ask him to decide if he will forgive you or not. And three he has to ask himself if he is smart everyday if you will do this to him again. He does himself a disservice to just say "I love her so I have to let it be the past". You may have to spend a long time at least making this up to him. Knowing how he feels yet still seeking pleasure in the arms of another. You must realize you are now at his mercy for possibly several years to come. I would say if after 2 or 3 years he still holds it over your head than that is his fault but these things take time to go away. Learn from it
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich +, writes (12 April 2010):
once the glass has already a crack its already hard to put a super glue on it. the only way you can do is to have patience, understanding and time. patience for him and to understand his normal reaction. time will never change the past but it will heal the pain.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 April 2010):
He has to want this to work too.
He has to give you a chance.
He either forgives you and gives you a second chance, or he doesn't and he leaves. He has to make that choice. He can't keep stringing you along like this.
Tell him to either forgive you or not. He can't punish you for ever.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 April 2010):
It's very much a case of just being open with him, and reassuring him while he gets over this. You can't have secrets anymore, and you need to be open about everything you do. Other than that, there is little else. You just have to work through this over time.
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (12 April 2010):
You cheated so you cant blame him for being suspicious but at the same time he has taken you back which means he should be giving you a chance and not constantly accusing you.Unfortunately your in a tricky situation, you need to give him credit for taking you back after what you did but he cant take you back and keep punishing you for it. you need time to build your relationship again and the trust.I think you should have a talk and tell him that your pleased he is giving you a second chance and that you realise the trust needs to be re-gained but he needs to stop accusing you and give you that chance to prove to him that you wont cheat again.you also need to make sure you dont cheat again and if things aren't right between you and you start looking to cheat again the break up with him rather than cheating on him because if the relationship was right in the first place and you loved him then you wouldnt want to cheat on him.
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