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writes: Hey ,I wonder ,if you can relate to my problem.I feel very judged ,and criticized all the time/ ..I also feel people are looking at me weird on the street.And I feel very uncomfortable, to go out and be on public places.Well, it sounds like social phobia, but I don't think it is actually the same. I;m not sure, that its all in my mind, or it is true, but it is just impossible to find out. I can;t go to somebody and ask, ''Do you think is there anything wrong with me?'' They wouldn't tell,if there is..So ,I constantly checking myself in the mirror, and find out what the hell were they looking at.Now, I think ,I m beautiful , and I did hear this from many people over the years. I don;t hate my image in the mirror at all, So it is not low self esteem. And I heard it many times, that I probably just imagine that. What if its not the case. What is there is something provoking or unusual about my presence. I dont know, but I sure suffer a lot . Please tell me what you think.
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reader, saurabh90  +, writes (1 September 2012):
hey you are not alone i am a 22 year old male from india i also suffer from condition as yours people think as if i m looking at them while i am not looking at them at all due this i face alot of criticism and people dont like my presence.i feel really bad when they act differently when i get together with them.someone please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): I'm just the same. I've also been told many times I'm very beautiful. But I think I might have some issues since I was made fun of at school when I was young. I was very shy and skinny. Now I can't help but think I'm being watched and made fun of all the time :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Unless you have toilet paper stuck to your shoe or your skirt tucked into your stockings then no one's going to think you're weird just by looking at you.Honestly I bet you get looked at for your beauty - that's much more likely to attract attention. People generally avert their eyes if they see anything weird and pretend it's not there. I get a lot of attention for the way I look too. Women always check out attractive women in that "what's she wearing? Hah I have better shoes on than her, I'm awesome" kind of way and men are looking just because you catch their eye. If you see a weird look on strangers' faces, it's probably because they feel uncomfortable that you spotted them looking at you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): Of course youre weird. So is everyone...so smile and enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2011): They're probably looking at you because you're beautiful. Men and women alike like to look at beautiful women.Do you look at people first? Or do you just feel them looking at you even though you're not looking at them? They may be self-conscious as well when they react to you looking at them, it's natural. I like to look at people on the street and I don't mind if we accidentally make eye contact, but my ex used to complain a lot that strangers would look him in the eye on the street. Even if it was just for a split second. It's hard to avoid, really, in a crowded city.Do you only feel this way when walking alone, or also when you're out with others?Do you feel guilty about something? Or like you are not where you want to be in life? Those feelings would most likely have an effect too.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (30 April 2011):
if many people have told you that you gorgeousand allot of people are looking at you all the time than this explains it all?BTW are you sure of your age group?
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reader, cardinal  +, writes (30 April 2011):
 Feeling judged DOES NOT mean anything is wrong with you. We all feel judged and criticized, some more than others. We think something is wrong with us for those reasons but its all in our heads...I'm in the same boat as you and I know exactly how you feel...but believe me nothing is wrong!!
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