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writes:My girlfriend and i had sex together for the first time. We did it twice and she bled both times. The first time she bled more than the second (the 2nd was only a little bit) She was in some pain and it was hard for me to go inside her because she's a virgin. She was worried about if it was pleasurabl enough for me but I told her i was fine and it was all left up to her when she was ready because I love her. I was fine but I want to know how I can help her so she wont be in pain the next time? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mzbabybat +, writes (13 August 2008):
 I will let you have my advice. its one that is uncommon but its how i feel. dont plan to have sex with her next time. next time just "love" her body without actual intercourse. get naked with her. slowly explore each other. let her explore you, she may need a little promting. so show her little things you like done to your body. and TELL her what you love about her body. slowly massage her. and let her hands wander over you. you may get her to relax and she will initiate it. or it will be something for her to remember the next time you guys are ready to play again. remember this. girls are auditory so tell her, express everything about her you love, not just her "kitten".
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): Quite simply, let her be the one who goes on top. She can then control how deep she can stand it and if it gets uncomfortable she can do something about it.
Plenty of foreplay to get her in the mood and nice and juicy plus a drop of K-Y jelly to help smooth things along.
She'll soon be banging like a shithouse door once you get over this initial hurdle..
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 A lot of fore play, Legs wide open and go in gently and slowly
Those are basically the basics!
The pain will go after a few times and she still could bleed (as i did) but the pain always eases off the more you do it
Think about making sure she's comfortable with what you're doing and ask if she's ok through the session
hope i've helped
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p.s ALWAYS have safe sex (but im sure you know that)
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 it's all about preparing her body. get her relaxed, excited - lube might help, and go slow! her body is still getting used to yours so don't rush things. good luck!
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reader, shelleyanne +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Next time the two of you decide to have sex start by fingering her first. If you do that for a while it should relax her and her muscles so it won't be so painfull. Also it can be painful if a woman isn't properly lubricated. I hope you're already wearing condoms, but wearing a lubricated condom could definitely help things go more smoothly. In general just move slow, be patient and sweet to her. Make sure she knows that you're enjoying it, and that you want her to enjoy it too.
Good luck to both of you!
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