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He says he flirts with other girls because he wants them to feel happy. Am I being unreasonable for not believing this?

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Question - (5 September 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 7 September 2008)
A female United Kingdom, *arlyuk writes:

heya last night i found out that my bf of a month likes to flirt wiv other gals i dont mind this but he likes to flirt alot he tells every gd luking gal he talks to ow gawjus they are he seys its just the way he is he seys he likes to make thm feel happy. But y wud he need to if he loves me as much as he seys he does?

Am i being unreasonable?

if he loves me y wud he need to make other girls happy?

I hate the way im being treated but i don't wana lose im

please help

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A female reader, carlyuk United Kingdom +, writes (7 September 2008):

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carlyuk agony auntok i have talked about this with my boyfriend and he was so stubbor and would'nt change so we have ended up spliting up. I just can't believe he picked flirting with other girls over a relationship with me am i that bad a gf? when it was al over he didnt even seem to care that an of this had hurt me and now im depressed and down.

Thanks for your answers they really gave me the push to stand up for what i belive in.

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A female reader, carlyuk United Kingdom +, writes (6 September 2008):

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carlyuk agony aunti can't tell you all how good your answers hve been thank you all. i think ive got to talk to him about this.

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A female reader, AntieMaria United Kingdom +, writes (5 September 2008):

AntieMaria agony auntSweetheart, I think your boyfriend is doing to make himself feel happy. Trust is paramount in a relationship and if you not feel you can trust him and you do not feel comfortable with this relationship then have a word and explain to him how you feel when he behaves in that manner. If he still continues I would suggest you say goodbye and find a gentleman who just wishes to make you happy.

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A female reader, shiraz United Kingdom +, writes (5 September 2008):

hiyah, although it might seem like thats what hes doin i see it as just a good excuse, yeah every girl likes to feel liked etc but its different when the guys called for (or so youd think). youve tried to understand this but its obviously getting to you so talk to him tell him how uncomfortable it makes you feel and how would he like it if you did it to other guys to make them feel good? when its switched the other way round its amazin the affect it can have! you love him but hes put you in an arkward position and has come up with this making them feel better lame excuse to cover his tracks youve spotted it so sort it! its not riight and certainly not fair! on you or the other girl for that matter!

good luck hope it goes ok keep us informed :)

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (5 September 2008):

hlskitten agony auntI dont know your age but, i love the Darling buds of may that used to be on, with David Jason in. Pop and Ma Larkin in their 40's/50's, he was a terrible flirt! Used to love making the ladies days by making them feel good. Ma Larkin didn't mind because they were tight knit! Had been together since they were teens. Yes i know its a program, but there are plenty of guys that putting a smile on someones face makes them happy!

If he makes you feel good too, then its just is way!

C xxxxx

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A female reader, superbunny United Kingdom +, writes (5 September 2008):

superbunny agony auntHaha; no guy is that thoughtful!!

Seriously though, he probably just enjoys the attention he's getting back from them - flirting works both ways! He's trying to play the "I'm considerate card" with you by making it look like it's to make them feel better. If he's your boy, YOU come first.

If you're not happy in the way you're being treated: Ditch him.

Good luck, sweetie.

xx

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A female reader, Belle De Jour United Kingdom +, writes (5 September 2008):

Belle De Jour agony auntboys are like that .. they flirt with every girl ebcause thats just who they are .. i shouldnt worry to much just watch him not like a hawk but just keep an eye on him .. and if u think that it is getting to bad , then leave an update and i will right back

xxx belle xx

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