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writes:Please give your advice. Me and my boyfriend broke up over a year ago. We kept in contact a bit and I text him, until I decided to tell him that I wanted to be with him and still had feelings for him. He told me to move on, so I did. Have not had any contact now for over three months and then he requests my friendship on facebook. I know it's not really a big deal, but I was wondering why you guys think he has done this?. Is he being nosy? He wants to know that I still like him?. I am not going to accept his friendship, because in my mind once you have told someone to move on, then it means that you forget about them. Well it's not moving on if he can see my photos and updates etc is it? Do you think he is just missing the attention? Any suggestions preferably from males on what you think his reasoning is?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): Thank you for your suggestions. I just dont understand why you would tell someone to move on and that he doesnt feel the same anymore, and then three months later, ask for friendship on facebook. It seems possibly hes just trying to keep me in his life as back-up?. When we broke up, he said he cared about me a great deal, but he was moving away to do a course.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): i know this may sound abit harsh but once a guy has told you they dont want anything to do with you why bother... i would get on with my life and keep him out
come on girl wheres the pride... if a guys says i dont want you in my life boy i wouldnt go back there even if he begged.. but hey thats just me
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (9 March 2009):
 To me, and I am a generation older than you, This is not, at first glance, typical Guy behavior. Usually When a guy makes a final statement, like "move on", he means it. It could also mean he has another relationship now. Asking to be friends or to remain in a friendly relationship is, to me, a more feminine reaction. So there are a few possible explanations.
1) He wants to say that there are no hard feelings on his part. Nice from him, but does not require a reply from you.
2) He has broken off the new relationship and is testing the water. You need better communication before you make a commitment in that direction.
3)this is the bad one. Guys are compulsive game players, everything has a score. He even thinks that the number of friends he has listed on his face book page gives him some sort of standing in the "game". So he wants you not for you just for one more point. No reason to give him that.
There are some thoughts from an old guy.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (9 March 2009):
 okay first of all moving on doesnt mean forgetting and to be honest you cant really just forget about someone. and maybe he just wants tobe friends and talk againg but maybe its more no one knows but him.
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