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writes:My boyfriend and I havent been together that long and up until a few weeks ago, he seemed head over heels for me. All of a sudden he said that he’s so busy with his job and school right now, he's not sure if he can handle it all. He failed classes before because of girls and doesn’t want that to happen again so we decided to take a break. He suggested we go back to dating rather an actualrelationship and said he'll call me in a few weeks, its up to me if I want to talk to him. The next night, I went to visit him out of sheer stupidity and tried to get close to him. He didn't respond at first but later put his arm around me. He drove me home late at night, I said he didn't have to but he told me that he cares and we kissed goodnight. I haven't heard from him since, its been over a week. Are we done or he is just taking time? Does not even have the decency to call? If we are going to break up, I want to be the one dumping him and not vice versa. He always called me beautiful but Im afraid thats all he ever saw me as, even though he said he felt and emotional connection too. Should I text him and say that its over?
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reader, akimduong +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Thanks for posting up your situation / question :)
The same thing is happening to me right now.
I really like this guy but since he's being relocated at work (now 45 mins away). He keep saying that he is busy or too tired. "I wanna see you baby, but Im so tired"
Is that a lame excuse, I believe what other's ppl are saying too, no one is too busy to spend some quality time with his gf. Not even President Obama. He shouldn't be busier than Obama right? LOL
I haven't heard frm my SO CALL bf for 3 days, and it is killing me also. But maybe, we should just move on and not play the waiting game.
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reader, fishy fish +, writes (5 May 2010):
Hello, ur story reminded me a lot of mine, so i'll give u a piece of advice that i think might help u feel better, The guy might want to focus on his studies as he seems the emotional type and love stories can derail him from his academic goals, however true genuine feelings can't fade away over night, if he's really into u then he should be super honest and tell u to be patient with him.On another hand , i think u should respect his will and withdraw yourself from his life, first you'll be saving ur dignity and earn his respect , 2nd you'll give him time to think, if he won't hear from him in the coming 2 weeks then forget about this guy without even texting him or informing him, come on , he can't expect u to be waiting for him forever , the study excuse is not very solid, u deserve a man who surrounds u in his ups and downs. Good luck beautiful ;)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 May 2010):
You decided you were on a break. That means that you're not supposed to have contact. When you're on a break, you're on a break. So it's really more of a time thing. That said, it does seem like this has gone as far as it can anyway. Usually when someone suggests a break, it's the start of the end of a relationship. If you are going to end it, please don't do it by text. That's the shabbiest way to do it, and if it gets around, no matter how you've been treated by him you'll look bad. I'd suggest either phoning him, or writing him a letter explaining everything. Just not a text.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Personally I belong to the "where there's a will there's a way " school of thought. I believe that if two people really care about each
other, they 'll find a way to be close ( in person or by e-mail phone etc. ) even if they were attending school by day and working in the salt mines at night.
I was never one to buy the old " I am too busy for a relationship ".
I admit though that my view may be too drastic,European,and old fashioned. My American friends argue that you do not need to be either blissfully in love or totally estranged, and casual dating
is just fine for the in between :people that like each other- but not crazily,therefore they are ok with meeting up...when it happens,
I guess you have to decide what are your physical and emotional wants and needs, and if they can be fulfilled in your current situation. If they can't,you'll have to break up,and look for a more available partner.
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reader, rainbowmaker +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Actually darling what i think would be the best thing for you to do is well, nothing! This guy is clearly messing you about wether he means to or not. Surely he cant expect to pick you up and drop you whenever he feels like it! And surely your not going to let him?? leave him to it and get out there and have some fun with your friends instead of sitting around being his beck and call girl. Your better than that are you not? Or do you wish to be a doormat? if he comes looking for an explanation as to why you havent been in contact simply tell him You werent going to sit around waiting for him to decide wether he was gonna like you this week or not!!!! Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): hey, i think that you should text him but dont to say its over just text him and ask him were you to stand. if he does not reply then that suggests he wants it to be over. if this happens dont take it to heart remember he called you beatiful so its his loss not your :)
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