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writes:I met this beautiful girl, she is laid back, funny, interesting, smart just a great girl! She has a great figure and is a natural beauty, unlike some the girls I see she doesn't look like she even has to try to look good.Well one thing about her that I love is her long hair, might be odd for a guy to like a girls hair. But when we were out the yesterday just laying there on the field in the sun, I said doesn't her hair make her feel hot in this weather and hard to manage. And she replied well it's extensions so sometimes the heat can make it uncomfortable... I was shocked it wasn't her real hair!! I said i thought that was all real and how short was her hair really. She said her extensions are a few inches longer than her own hair, but she got them in because she misses having long hair and it's it'll give her own hair a rest and let it grow quicker.I think she could tell I was surprised cause she seemed off, I told her that was one the things I love about her and that it's a shame now I know it's someone else's hair!! She said she was sorry, but she didn't see the point in telling me straight off if I hadn't noticed and that at least she was honest about it instead of faking it off as her own.I guess that's true, just it's thrown me back and made me think is she lying about anything else? Am i be silly, or would you guys react the same way I did and be off with the girl, unsure what else there may be... It just makes me think she's fake now...
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (14 March 2012):
 Are you actually suggesting that because she wears hair extensions she's going to be a slutty, cheating liar?
I really hope you understand just how bonkers that sounds. You have some serious problems with women if you really think that a woman has to be -100% ALL NATURAL- to be "good girls".
I guess that means that women that shave their legs are slutty? What about women that wear bras? High heels? Clothes in general, right, because clothes aren't natural either.
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reader, Ldu  +, writes (14 March 2012):
i Wont give you paragraphs like most ppl here .
Your over reacting, its hair ......get over it ....said she was growing it and the extensions are only a few inches . GET OVER IT , YOUR OVER REACTING .
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reader, Ldu +, writes (14 March 2012):
i Wont give you paragraphs like most ppl here .
Your over reacting, its hair ......get over it ....said she was growing it and the extensions are only a few inches . GET OVER IT , YOUR OVER REACTING .
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2012): Oh my God don't be sooooo silly it only hair for goodness sake!!
She most likely go her hair cut short & didn't like it,it made her feel self conscious so she got extensions to hide it.
I enjoy having long-ish nails but my own are to weak to grow so I get fake ones put on & their not cheap so your g/f must have spent alot of cash on her hair to look & feel good & now your going totally ape shi* over something so mundane!
Silly boy...grow up!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 March 2012):
 Sorry: You're silly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): Be more concerned about a person who is a FAKE INSIDE rather than outward appearance...one day you might enhance your face by shaving...is'nt that UNATURAL? It may be common to shave but naturally you may be a very scary hairy man...should you keep the growth so you can say you are natural and unfake?Don't judge so unfairly and i would say sorry for been so personal and rude about her appearance.Spunky Monkey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): i think you should trust her as its just hair extensions. she isnt fake if as you said doesnt have to try to look good and is a natural beauty. i wouldnt worry about it its not that of a big deal.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (13 March 2012):
Oh man, you're in for a surprise if you think that most women wake up looking the way they do when you meet them during the day. That's very naive of you and you're punishing this gal for her honesty?
Extensions are a commodity these days. I know at least 4 classmates who wear them and tons more outside of that. Look on youtube, type in extensions. You'll find tons and tons of videos of gals wearing them and even more comments from other gals asking for advice on which length to buy and from which brand. Type in "makeup tutorial" and you'll find out how much effort many women put in to have their face look the way it does. Fake eyelashes, concealer, bronzer...and the good ones make it look natural too.
That's the way it goes, man. Girls get pressure to look their best from a very young age. Celebs, movies, magazines with tips and pictures of flawless faces framed by flawless glossy hair. It's the standard and many attempt to meet it.
I myself have naturally long hair at hip length, and it took me ages and ages to get it at that length, in good condition. It's very hard to attain, impossible even if you have thin hair. So when you can just buy it in one day instead of spending 5 to 6 years growing it, can you blame a gal for buying extensions? Plus the hair is all clean. Nothing filthy about it.
Sorry man, but you need to wake up. Hair extensions are in the same alley as makeup, jewels, high heels and flattering clothes.
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reader, N91  +, writes (13 March 2012):
 Yes, you're majorly over-reacting, don't risk losing a girl you like because of her hair.
She also didn't lie to you, she was completely honest and answered what you asked.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 March 2012):
 She didn't really lie, she told you they were extensions without you having to ask. She just didn't say it on the first date. Women wear fake things all the time to try to live up to this ideal of flawless dream woman that is constantly projected on them. MANY women wear hair extensions, and every single celebrity you've ever seen with long hair was probably wearing them, plus veneers on their teeth, false eyelashes, foundation, concealer, fake tanner, bronzer, mascara, and a zillion hair products. And that's all to achieve a "natural" look. Not to mention push up bras, shape wear (spandex things on the stomach and thighs) at all formal events (I'm talking celebs here).
With the exception of my radical feminist friends, I don't know any women who don't fake the way they look to some extent. It's not a lie, we just don't like to admit some of our beauty is an illusion right off the bat, the same way no one is going to come right out and say, "Hi my name is Bob, I spend 2 hours a day at the gym, how are you?" It sounds superficial. We wear these things to look "naturally" gorgeous, not to look fake. Society expects an unattainable ideal of women, so they/we cheat a little.
Since you can't even tell they're fake, is it really a problem if her long gorgeous hair isn't natural? It's really no different than dying it imo. It technically is her hair in the sense that she owns it... Hair extensions are not a reason not to trust someone. If faking beauty is an untrustworthy thing, then pretty much all women are or have been liars.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 March 2012):
 You are being a Goober!
Did you date her/like her for her hair or her? So if she wore a push up bra, but didn't have perky breasts that would be fake?
Now, she had told you OVER and OVER how she had this fantastic natural hair and THEN it turns out it was extension then .. meh she might be a little fake. But having then and not telling everyone HEY I HAVE EXTENSSIONS!! is not the same, nor does it make her fake.
Honey, no one is perfect, but a lot of people try to be anyways...
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reader, katiekate +, writes (13 March 2012):
 Everyone has their preferences. If a woman being completely natural is a quality that is important to you, then you should probably find someone who meets that criteria. However, it is pretty superficial to stop liking someone because they have hair extensions... is it something you can overlook if you really like this girl? But from the sound of it, you really don't like her all that much if something like hair extensions can make your feelings change. My advice is to just follow your heart, but keep in mind that no one is perfect, and getting rid of every girl who doesn't match up 100% with what you want, will likely leave you with no one!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): First of all she didn't lie. She simply didn't tell you. It's not the same S lying. If she didn't tell you after you mentioned hair, she wouldn't be lying to you also. I have two porcelain veneers on my my two fro teeth, after a was taking a certain medication in childhood that made them dark yellow. My teeth look beautiful and very natural. Sometimes people compliment me on them. It doesn't mean that I must tell everyone: thanks, but i had some work done. It doesn't make me a lier to not say the true fact.
The older you get the more women you will meet who have things done, and they wouldn't want you to know. Women always enhanced their appearance since the early periods of humanity so you guys would notice us. It's nothing wrong with that. But no woman would advertise these enhancements, or be very frank about it.
The fact that you were shocked about her extensions really makes it only your problem. May be it's time to get used to little trick, nips and tucks that women go through.
And you liking long hair is very normal. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): The odd thing about MEN that put more importance on such things- you think a Woman has to be 'PERFECT' or a 'DREAM GIRL' well with that means the woman cannot have faults, flaws and well, I think you have a hang up about women and make up in that you associate such items with a womans character.
Perhaps you have a fetish. There are some men that NEED a woman to have REAL, LONG HAIR to feel an attraction to them. Because of this; you may feel 'betrayed'.
Its more you and your reasoning than this poor young woman.
She uses hair extensions to enhance her hair length. By 2-3"? Yah thats not overly fake in my books.
If she looks great and it helps her feel amazingly beautiful- I say GO GIRL!
I hope you either snap out of it ASAP or you stand to lose a good woman of good character- in todays world, they are harder to come by.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 March 2012):
 If she wears lipstick, then is she fake ? If she's a brunette and dyes her hair blonde, then she's a liar and will always tell you fibs ? ....
What about dental implants , or some removable false tooth ? ... Would a girl have to tell you : Hi, John, pleased to meet you, my name is Mary and oh btw, you see my upper left incisor ? well, that's not really mine, it is a porcelain tooth that my dentist got me after my bike accident ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): Your being very silly, if girls came clean about every aid to looking good they use.. on the first date.. it would take away the shine immediately.
'Hi, I have hair extensions, a push up bra,false nails, fake tan, pump up lip gloss, false eyelashes..pleased to meet you'
If she's laid back,funny,smart and interesting then your a lucky guy....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 March 2012):
 She’s not lying… she said it was extensions when the topic came up.. how you view this as lying is beyond me. I guess if she wears a push up or padded bra she is a liar too? What about if she wears heels or control top pantyhose??? Is wearing makeup fake? What about colored contact lenses??? What if she wore a full out wig???
Sounds to me like she has well done extensions. BTW around here if you pay for it, it's YOURS..... that's always been the rule about hair... I compliment many women on their hair and when they say "thank you it's extensions" the retort is "well you paid for them so they are yours"....
Many men by the way prefer long hair on women… you’re not special in that aspect….
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