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writes:I need some advice...My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost 2 years now, late last year she started to hang out with a friend who she used to know, he seemed nice to me, a bit weird but he was okay. Last December she went through a really crazy phase (needless to say she was not herself and she can't remember a lot from that period). During that crazy phase she fell for this friend because he reminded her a lot of her first love, she made out with him and jacked him off. Me and her talked about it and agreed that she had to stop hanging out with him because it would be bad for us.Starting this summer she started living with me and my parents because of crap happening at her house with her parents. She was depressed a bit during the summer so we were fighting a lot but since September(when we both got new jobs and more money) our bond has grown, we started laughing and smiling together and she wasn't depressed anymore.She started hanging out with her friend again about a month ago, the same thing happened again, they made out and she jacked him off again. I know she loves me and she knows how much I love and care about her. She says she doesn't wanna hurt me but she says she just wants to have sex with him once to see if there's anything there.Should I let her have sex with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): Thank you everyone for your answers...
Here's an update:
She spent a wild weekend with him and we talked about it and she is crazy about him (not in love, but almost there), she has to make up her mind about who she really wants to be with, and that's where it stands for now.
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reader, abinva0409  +, writes (27 November 2010):
Like most of the people have said, just dump her. She has issues that you can't help her with, just cut your losses and move on.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (25 November 2010):
 This is terrible! She has cheated on you twice already with this guy... and now she wants permission to go back for thirds??? Unbelievable! Why would you even consider this an option?
There is no hope for your relationship, and you need to break up with her now. I'm sure you are hoping that your girlfriend will change... but this is not going to happen. The sooner you realize this, the faster you can move on with your life. Eventually, you will find a woman who cherishes your love and treats you with respect you deserve!
Please let us know what you decide to do. Stay strong!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Dump that selfish hoe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): Your too good for her. Get rid of her.
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reader, RM24 +, writes (25 November 2010):
Shes unsure and she cheated...I would dump her asap EVEN IF she changes her mind about having sex with him because she doesn't want you to leave. She's had intention and temptation, so you need to just let her go for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): it sounds to me that you are just being played she's obviously cheated on you more than once so just end things i know its gonna be extremely difficult but do you really want to deal with that crap? i know you love her and you might believe that she loves you but she doesn't if she did love you my friend you would be the only person on her mind. also if she didn't want to hurt you then she wouldn't have cheated on you in the first place
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (25 November 2010):
She clearly doesn't love you as much as you think. Love is supposed to be a mutual feeling between two people and if there are separate feelings involving another, one party clearly isn't holding up their end of the bargain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): She's having another "crazy phase" from the sound of it. She will probably continue to have them every time she starts liking another guy.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 November 2010):
I'd dump her on the spot for this. Simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): surely u can see shes makin a fool of you. Tell her that your gonna go find a girl that actually wants you nd just u and shes welcome to her friend. Ppl that cheat like that will never change hun take it from som1 who no's!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Are you kidding me? No you shouldn't think it's ok for her to have sex with someone else while she's in a relationship with you.
This girl is asking if she can cheat on you, that's what it is, cheating. No matter how she tries to dress it up the fact is she's already cheated on you more than once.
She's giving this guy hand jobs and you're asking if it's ok that she sleeps with him now? This girl is making a fool out of you. What about if you asked her if you could have sex with a girl you saw at work because you thought she'd be good in bed? I doubt she'd approve.
Dump her and find somebody who wants to be in a relationship with you and not treat you like a push over.
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reader, raiders +, writes (24 November 2010):
 Why would you allow her to have sex with another man. If she is not sure about you than she should let you know that something is missing in her feelings towards you and call it quits and than she'll be free to go and experiment with him or with whom ever she too. I think this is a very bad idea.
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