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writes:it all started when I saw her blog link on a website, and you can call it a love at first click. 'you just fall for her look, you will get over it soon.'; 'tumblr is not a social network for you to find a date!' etc... I'm tired of hearing these.clearly I can't choose who I fall for and I can't stand silently in love with her and being a stalker, scrolling through her blog and look through her pictures every day. you know... it's like there is this 'vibe' in her that makes me feel that she is the right one for me. however, she is so far away from me, 9000 miles away from my country, she is single but something happened in the past that she won't ever do long-distance/online relationship again. so obviously, I have 0% of chance.my questions are: do you think I should move on and silently accept that I'll never have a chance with them? or do you think I still have a chance if I at least try? but please don't tell me that we can at least be friends because I can't stand being friends with a person I'm attracted to.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (24 March 2012):
 Hi,
As an idea, how about, turn off the computer for 4 days and see how things feel after that. You may feel differently. best wishes, T.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): tell her how you feel. maybe she will be down for it, you'll never know unless you ask. even if she says no, at least this way you know that you tried.
if she rejects you, at least she's 9000 miles away and you don't have to see her. then, if she says no, delete her account, email, pictures you have on your pc of her ;) and everything else that will make you think of her, or give you a way to contact her. you already said you don't want to be friends, so there's no point in keeping in touch. then like the last lady said, turn off your computer and go chat up one of the girls here in your own country. by the time you go back online, you'll have forgotten all about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): Turn the computer off. You are at an age where you should be out mixing, building your social skills and living life. This 9000 miles away love only exists in your imagination so get someone real.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 You can't choose who you like or who makes you feel butterflies, but you can be realistic and understand that this is not going to work out. Sorry. 0% chance, as you say.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (22 March 2012):
Hi,
I would move on and not waste anymore time. A 9,000 miles LDR is mainly played out in your own head and you may "imagine" what they are doing and fall in love with your own thoughts about who and what they are. This is not good for you. Move on and look for potential partners locally. Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): It's not likely you are in love....you are sitting behind a computer screen interacting with a computer screen...that is not love. How about getting off the computer and go out and meet a real live person that you can talk to, be your best friend, touch and have a real relationship with...it will be considerably more fulfilling and it's the kind of real life experience you need, not a pretend one on the internet...people can be whomever they want to be and whatever they think you want them to be when they are sitting in a chair in front of a computer...seriously.... move on....
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 You will kick yourself for not trying, so go for it! In any case you have nothing to lose and miracles do happen!
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reader, Chapche  +, writes (22 March 2012):
First of the questions - does she know about your existence? And why do you think it's impossible to have a long-distance relationship if she somewhat hinted at that. This can also mean that you have a chance to prove her wrong. It's the challenge for you. Try every possible way to get close to her. It doesn't mean you'll become loving people, don't think to far, maybe you'll be friends but you'll get the experience and maybe a good friend and so she does.
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