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writes:I have been married to my wife for over 15 years now and can't stop thinking of watching her with well endowed men, especially black men. Do I follow through with this fantasy? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): The advice here is very sound. My husband had this request of me many years ago. First you must make sure your wife shares this fantasy. If it's not a two way deal forget it. Your really just being manipulative. Secondly make sure she is not going to get emotionally involved. That's a major disaster and much harder to predict than you think. Thirdly I'd recommend you test the waters before you go too far by staging various small steps just to see how you both really feel. Fantasy and reality can be very very different and stepping over the line too fast can end in tears.
This type of lifestyle works for some but for most the outcome is far from a happy ending.
Good luck
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (13 January 2011):
These things will always end in disaster and I think to even suggest such a thing to your wife would show a lack of respect for her or your marriage.
keep this a fantasy and enjoy a little alone time watching this fantasy courtesy of the internet or a dvd along with two ammature actors if you get what i mean.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (13 January 2011):
 In most cases introducing a new person into a couples bedroom life usually ends in disaster. One person falls in love with the new person, one person can't have sex with the other person unless the new person is involved and some husbands/wives leave their significant other for that other person.
Does your wife share your fantasy? I personally don't share and if my bf approached me with this type of fantasy I would end things with him as this tells me that he is willing to share me with anyone. Your wife could feel that way as well (don't know that for sure).
Fantasies are normal and most people just keep them to themselves and don't share. The thought of your wife with another man turns you on, could you handle actually watching her be intimate with another man? That wouldn't bother you?
Think about the pros and cons before you approach your wife with this and then make a decision.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (13 January 2011):
I agree with the other replies... some fantasies, if not all, should remain as just that!
You have been married for 15 years, and you could quite easily loose that if you carry out this fantasy. How do you know that after the event, you wouldn't feel bitter, angry and jealous that your wife has had sex with other men - that won't do your marriage any good will it. You are probably thinking right now, "no I won't feel like that", but how do you know.. the mind has a habit of changing! Also, think of your wife... she may start to wonder if you really love her if you are wanting other men to have sex with her.
Why break something that doesn't need fixing!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 January 2011):
I've often found that fantasies are best kept that way. Too many things can go wrong here. First of all your wife might not like the idea at all. Secondly, you thinking about her having sex with another man might turn you on, but you seeing it might be totally different. She might even wind up falling out of love with you in favour of someone else.
I would honestly leave this as a fantasy. Too much can go wrong.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Does your wife share your fantasy?
I'm sure if she said her fantasy was to watch you get f****d by a well hung black man that your opinion would surely matter.
*ahem* Sorry bout that. Sometimes fantasies should stay as fantasies. Look around this site, there's tonnes of stories about how introducing someone else into the bedroom has destroyed marriages, relationships, started secret affairs, etc. They're everywhere these horror stories.
I personally think that after 15 years of marriage, is it worth taking a risk like this?
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