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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I dont know what is going on with my ex at all !. We went out with each other on and off from 2004 - 2006 , and we kept intouch every now and then after that by text messages. Then in 2008, i bumped into him once when i was in a club. We said hello to each other but then he walked straight past me and didn't talk to me any more. Then a few months later, i saw him again when i was out with a group of friends. We had a chat but then for some reason, he pretended he was going to the bar. He was gone quite a while, and me and his friend were wondering where he was. We went outside and saw that he was walking home !. Then in My last year, out of the blue, he sent me a friend request on facebook. I was going to ignore him at first, but i though, well maybe he has grown up so i sent him a message saying i was susprised to hear from him. He asked how i was, and asked me if i had a boyfriend, and i said i didn't. He said he wanted to meet up again to " catch up ". And he asked where he would stand with me if we met up and he still fancied me. I said we should just meet up and see how it goes. He also told me that the reason he got thinking about me again was because a friend of his had mentioned watching a film that we had seen together . His friend didn't know that we had both seen it together though. I tried to ask him to meet a few times after that, but he said he was busy with work, but he'd still write and see how i was. Then, just before Christmas, he asked me what i got for christmas, and when i told him what clothes i had got, he made sexual comments, and said he couldn't wait to see me in them. This was probably because i mentioned a skirt and top that i had got.He also said he would meet me over Christmas while he was off work. I text him once to ask him but he didn't answer. Then on New Year's Eve, he sent me a message at about 11.30pm and said " happy new year for midnight x " . I was up late that night, then at about 2.45am i received a text saying " There's only 1 girl i want to spend the new year with, and thats the sexy girl lying beside me ". I have ignored him ever since then. A couple of weeks later, he had changed his status to " in a relationship " on facebook. And last friday, he wrote on facebook "I'm with the love of my life right now and loving it. lmao!". And he posted comments on his page as if he was talking to his girlfriend, but it looked like he was talking to himself, if that makes sense? One of his friends thought he was talking to himself but he said he was writing something that he said to his girlfriend and then she was responding to him. They were both writing on his page through his facebook account. Strange !. Unless she doesn't have her own facebook account.And today he sent a message saying "hiya, hows things? x ". And it is Valentines day today, although it may just be a coincidence that he sent me a message today. I haven't responded to him though. I was even wondering whether to remove him from my friends list, but then i thought it might show that i am bothered by his behaviour, but on the other hand, he wouldnt be able to see what i am up to then. and that might get on his nerves. But then again, i thought maybe i should leave him on so he can see what i've been up to, and he probably wouldnt like that either. It's strange as well because before he text today, i was hoping he would get in touch so that i could ignore him. Even if we weren't going to get back together when we met up, i still think his behaviour is cruel. What do you think about this ?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Honey you broke up in 2006... that's 4 years ago. He's just keeping in touch because he knows you are still a bit into him. His behavior is cruel. Dump him off facebook and move on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 February 2010):
After the way he's treated you, and given then you are already ex's, the best thing you can do is never reply and just move on. He's probably keeping you around in the hope that if all else fails you'll be there. So don't be there and just move on
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