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writes:Girls (or boys can answer too i guess to give your side)How do you feel about the fact your bf/fiance/husband has or wants a room to be his (like a games room) and have it filled with pictures of naked women???I was just talkin to my bf and he said that he wants a room and has naked girls all over the walls. Im rather uncomfotable with this. Im an insecure person (he knows this) and I hate the fact that he'd be in this room looking at all these girls and getting turned on by them. I really dont know why this bothers me so much because I know plenty guys who has posters on their walls of naked girls but saying that they are all bachelors. Ergh this has really bugged me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2013): Leave the guy if he disagree's to take it down,, but one thing is to show your love to him, and then ask him am sure he'll take it down!..
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reader, Cupid Boy  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 A "guy room" (or Man Cave) with like a sexy calendar or one or two pinups on the wall doesn't seem like a big a deal. But a room "filled" with porn pictures? That seems crass and a bit imbalanced, and I'd be saying the same if it were pictures of beer or marijuana instead. Talk to him again and see if that's really what he meant and how serious he was about it or if he was just dreaming.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (26 November 2010):
Sure let him...As long as those pictures are of you. Asked him if you can have a room of your own with pictures of naked men?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 November 2010):
A room for pictures of naked women? At his age? And in a committed relationship? I'm not sure where this guy's head is at. Most guys look at porn at some point. But I don't think there are many grown up guys who seriously have a room in a house for pictures of naked women.
I fear that you're with a guy who isn't ready for a relationship. Try explaining to him that this is something you're not happy about. But I think pretty much everyone will agree that this is a sign that he's totally immature.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Posters of naked women/semi naked celebrities etc are fine for a teenage boy's bedroom - but not for an adult. I am not an insecure person and am fine with my boyfriend looking at porn etc, so it is not because I would be feeling insecure about the posters, my problem would be that my partner appears to have the mental age of a 13 year old and I would not want to be with a person so immature!
Clearly your boyfriend has not grown up and appears to be living in his teenage dream world!
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Yeah no i wouldn't allow that. Looking at pictures sometimes is ok by me, but a whole room, hell no. Talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel about it. I'm sure he wouldn't like it if you had lots of guy photos everywhere
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Posters on the walls are quite OK for adolescents.
You didn't make it clear if the two of you are moving in together. If it's going to be your home, too, then if you're not OK with it then it's a no go, period. And frankly, why would you want to be living with such a child?
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 To tell you the truth I don't think this would bother me all that much. Yes, it would bother me that he has a room full of women, but it's not like he will ever be able to touch any of those women, ever.
If you aren't comfortable with it however, then you need to tell him that and emphasize on that. IF you don't say anything about it making you uncomfortable or that you feel it's inappropriate then he probably won't care.
He can have a "guy sanctuary", just tell him to put up some of those neon beer signs they have in bars or frame some pictures of classic cars. Have some funny signs that Hastings sells that you can tack onto the walls.
Just because it's a game room doesn't mean it has to have naked girl pictures.
Good luck and I hope this helps. Keep me posted ok?
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (26 November 2010):
 TALK TO HIM. Tell him you'd be uncomfortable, if he really cares about you, he'll understand.
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