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reader, Tryx  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 You know you're in love when you let the one you love slip through your fingers and she moves on without you to sit in your own pit of apathy.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): I don't think there's an exact way to describe love, as there are so many types and different situations have different effects.
But basically when you would die for another person, because their life means more than yours. When you need them more than air, and you physically need them in your life just to get out of bed every morning. Them being the only ones that can save you, but sometimes the only one you need saving from. Accepting everything about them and cherishing their flaws because that's the person you fell in love with. And realising you could never feel that for anyone else.
^^ So much more, but I really cant keep writing as it's so hard.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLoving the answers everybody :) and i'm not wondering whether i'm in love or not, it was just a curiosity thing as to how other peoples definitions of love differ :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): Well if your asking the question of how to know if your in love I can tell you one thing.......YOU are not in love. If you were in love you would know how it felt not be asking how it feels.
Sorry :-(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): you aren't in love if you don't feel completely comfortable around this person. you should feel comfortable talking to this person about everything and anything. you should enjoy spending time together any opportunity you get. if you're making excuses to get out of spending time together, you most probably are not in love ;). you should be able to tell when one another are upset, even without explanation and know they will understand. it's almost as if there is a secret telepathy between the two of you, for often times you can predict what your partner will do or say before they do it. you should want to listen to what they have to say. you know you're in love when you consider the person you're in love with a friend... a best friend even (in addition to your feelings). trust is a major factor in love. you should have a mutual trust that came about naturally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): When you feel your actual heart melt and thump and hop, skip and jump like it's been pierced (it has), you physically ache for the other person, you hurt when they're not there and feel delirious with excitement when they are, you feel you could talk to them forever and never really need anything or anyone else, you see their face and their smile in your mind's eye all the time, you feel like you're completely blessed to have been touched by some force not quite of this world, that your life's purpose is to make them happy, when they call you unexpectedly from hundreds of miles away and you feel the phone glow in your hand as if it's some sacred part of them... ...then you're probably in love.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (4 July 2009):
 To love a person, first and foremost you must KNOW them personally. Lots of teenagers say they "love" a celebrity or are "in love" with them but of course this can't be, they love the idea of who they are but if they've never met them then it's just a crush or infatuation.
Real love on the other hand is very different. If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): i think love is the reward that comes later on in any relationship. when we first meet someone its only lust, from there we go on to many other things, learning to trust, learning to accept each others flaws, learning to understand how the other see's life, if we make it through these times love follows, its the feeling of not being afraid to show your true self to your partner knowing they accept and like who you are, you open yourself to them because you feel completely safe baring your soul in there company. and when both side are doing this its amazing, its a true partnership and you feel as though you can get through anything life throws at you as a pair.
You stop noticing the outside of the person as much as you did in the beginning, because the inside is alot more attractive. and believe me, when you love someone, absolutely no-one in the world can take you away from him/her. no excuses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): when you feel absolutely comfortable with that person, you dont think before you speak or act, you know you can rely on them without asking, you know they are always there for you, you dont feel alone when they are not there, you love to here them comming in through the door, you can happily go off and do your own thing knowing you will see them later, you talk about anything and everything
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): I am young and although people may think I am naive, i think I am actually In love because I can't stop thinking about the guy, he understands me way more than anyone else can, he sees through my lies when I say I'm fine and he makes me feel special and makes me forget about my problems, I have been so depressed recently and not myself but he has changed that I am becoming me again and that's how I know I love him. If anyone would beg to differ please go right ahead.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (3 July 2009):
 It's a very heady feeling and something I hope I shall feel again one day in my lifetime...it's shown it's self to me all too briefly in the past...and I miss it dearly.
Thank god for family and friends...I get to love them all the time!!! :-) xxx
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reader, quarky +, writes (3 July 2009):
 When it hits you like both barrels from a 12 gauge. When you both feel you're the only 2 people in the world and nothing else matters. And not necessarily at first sight. Been there once-blew it. It's easy to mistake lust or attention as love so beware!
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reader, vodkablue +, writes (3 July 2009):
i think when you cant stop thinking about the person
when youre giddy with excitement when you know youre going to see them
when you have vested intrests
when you can visualize yourself with that person long term
you have a friendship with that person
when youre comfortable with them when the honeymoons worn off
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