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I have a special bond with him. I don't want to be gay!

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Question - (3 July 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 5 July 2009)
A male United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I think I might need help. I have a special bond with someone with the same gender. At first he was just my idol,but now I think about him all the time. I don't want to be gay but im asking you guys,do you think I have an attraction to him?

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A male reader, Jes Philippines +, writes (5 July 2009):

Jes agony auntBaing gay is about sexual preference. Ask yourself first if you think about him on a sexual basis or just a personal attraction to just hang out with him and feel comfortable because you're with someone who is far superior than you are. Being a man really sometimes is tiring and you just really want someone who is stronger than you to be with you and feel you're secured and comfortable to yourself. SO ask yourself first, Do I really want to have a romantic relationship with him? Can I imagine myself being romantically and sexually involved with him? Or am I just someone in need of a identity counterpart? In that way, you will know your answer.

If ever you might say that you're gay, it is still your choice to make.

Hope this might help you. Good Luck. ",)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009):

Sounds like you have a crush on him. Doesn't necessarily mean you are gay, as it could be a phase you are going through,which is quite common at your age.

If you do find you're gay, it's fine.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009):

I dont think so no. I think you just idiolise him.unless you actually think `oh hes hot i wouldnt mind kissing him` youre not gay.so you like someone and think about them? it just shows you care not that youre gay.

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A female reader, Lunacy_Fringe United Kingdom +, writes (3 July 2009):

I don't want to come across as rude but i'm going to give an example so hopefully i won't.

I have a boyfriend and he seems to be the same, but it's about for example football players. He admires them to the point where he compliments them on their looks etc etc. Sometimes it gets a bit excessive.

But to be honest, at the very most i'd say he's bisexual, and definitely not gay.

You may have a certain attraction to one guy, but this does not necessarily make you gay. You seem to be quite young and therefore i would say possibly just impressionable.

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