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writes:Ladies any advice will do. Well here it goes well i'm a male in my 20's who for the last 2 years have been in a realanship on and OFF. I'm madly in luv with this girl, the problem is that she walks in and out of my life 4 the last two years. I know that when she is not with me shes out there dating other guys where's i'm just way to down to even think of another girl. I don't know what it is about this girl when i'm with her and were together my days just seem so much brighter. Y is it that this girl walks in and out of my life like this?? I believe that and all our friends say that i treat her like a piece of gold i do everything i can for this girl skys the limit what ever it takes to 2 see her smile. She tells me she luvs me that one day were going to get marrierd and i believe her then out of the blue she leaves me. After a couple of weeks shes calling me again and i fall right back in luv with her. I want to be with her and only her she means the world to me but i can't take it no longer. She treats me like crap and I'm still here. I know what your all going to say tell me to forget her but i tryed and u can't deprive the heart from when it wants someone please help and advice will do... Reply to this Question
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reader, ladybug  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Do the right thing honey, leave her for a moment and have sometime alone!! i believe that she's not ready for a serious commitment that you're offering, this girl still wants to enjoy being single. no matter how much you love her, if she dosent respect you in return she's not worth it, tendencies are, if she chearts oncne, she could do it forever,
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reader, so_in_love  +, writes (18 June 2007):
You need to tell her this, at the moment she thinks that she can treat you like this and you're still gonna stick around. Threaten her with not getting back with her next time, see how much she really does like you. If she still messes you around then I'm really sorry to say it but you are just going to have to get on with your life and try and find someone else. There are so many lovely girls out there who would never dream of treating you like this.
Good luck xxxx
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reader, jabey +, writes (18 June 2007):
right if you really want her time to get some self respect. the reason she does this to you is because she know she can. She know you will always be there, so great, she can have a good time and then have you to fll back on.
Time to get down and dirty. Think why you want her so much, because we often want what we cant have.
So here is how to pull out the stops to get her to sit up notice you and want you, the word is apathy, it goes against all you beleive in but trust me its works.
Now you must think about you your life and your goals, put yourself first. You must go and date, dont se it as finding a replacement or new partner, se it as a flirt a boost to self esteem and a way of meeting new people.
when she calls you up do not be so readily aailable, even ignore a few calls. Let her know you have been dating, be happy, be up beat. What interests you? what makes you laugh ? you need to think a bout yourself, you desire this woman but you do not need her for your whole happiness. What aresponsibility that puts on someone.
So in short if you really want her, be strong, back off let her work for you and watch how quickly she comes running to youxxx
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reader, nologo  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 You tried to forget her, but you cannot.
It means that you should not do it now.
Some girls have a rather strange attitude to a relationship.
It is difficult for them to express this part of themselves.
Let's think of "She treats me like crap and I'm still here".
Different people have different attitude to the same things.
"when i'm with her and were together my days just seem so much brighter" - stay with her if you feel you can adapt to her.
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female
reader, fairhalflin  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 Well....I know that you love her but think about yourself for a minùte...
Do you want to be happy the rest of your life?
You say it makes you happy when you're with her?
Seems to me you are still miserable with her...
Here you are bùsting your balls for this girl that won't even think twice about your feelings...you need to come to terms with what's going on here && then decide what's better for you.
There's a thoùsand girls that would die to have a guy like you in their life...&& here you are wasting your time with her. Try to move on...no matter what it takes. When she comes back...face her && tell her, "its not fair the way you're treating me. I try to give you everything in the world but I don't see you giving your fair share...I love you but I can't do this anymore." Don't go back...the 1st step is to get rid of her....period. In the long rùn...its for the best.
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