What should I do about my wife?
Q. I am planning to leave my wife, but I am really scared of her - not that she is gonna beat me up or anything. The other day we were having a argument and she punched me - I was too shocked, even so she has hit me before. And she blames me for "m...
A. 8 March 2010: Hi - I think you should leave. You cannot stay in a relationship were you are scared. You are being abused physically and mentally by your partner - get out.... (read in full...)
Loveless marriage - stay or go?
Q. I have posted previously on my situation and I have tried to stick it out but have reached the end of my tether. My wife and I are less than 2 years married and have an 18 month daughter and she is 7 months pregnant. Our marriage has become loveless ...
A. 24 February 2010: I keep asking myself today do I want the marriage to work - I do for the sake of us as a family but can't see it working. I am not perfect but can't continue in an environment where everything I do is undermined and my role as a father is questioned ... (read in full...)
The love in our marriage has been replaced with hate
Q. My life is a mess - I have decided to leave my wife as I can no longer tolerate her constant nagging, neagitivity and derision.The problem is we have a 15 month old daughter and she is 4 months pregnant. I am torn because I love my daughter to ...
A. 24 November 2009: Hi I have tried to make peace but she is still very bitter & angry. 'I am a disgrace & an a la carte unfit father'. As usual all blame is on my part. I am not happy with the situation and know that she needs my support now more than ever - I suppose ... (read in full...)
The love in our marriage has been replaced with hate
Q. My life is a mess - I have decided to leave my wife as I can no longer tolerate her constant nagging, neagitivity and derision.The problem is we have a 15 month old daughter and she is 4 months pregnant. I am torn because I love my daughter to ...
A. 23 November 2009: Just to clarify a few points - I am a self employed accountant and my work can have time pressures and if anything I have been quilty of neglecting my own work at times to meet family commitments so my wife can get a break eg. I took off a couple of ... (read in full...)
If it werent for our infant daughter I wouldnt even be trying to save this marriage
Q. Do I stay or go? My wife and I got married in April 2008 principally because she was pregnant - we had a daughter in september. Before we married we both lived in our own houses about 50km apart. After our marriage due to location of work etc I mo...
A. 28 January 2009: Thanks Shellie - the love I had for my wife has almost been completely killed. Her constant pettyness and slagging off of me and my family is unbelieveable. I have tried to be a good husband & father - I have supported her in every possible way - I ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to move to another town so as not to embarass her family with the premarital pregnancy, but this would ruin our relationship because I cannot follow her! What to do??
Q. We were due to be married in April but girlfriend has since found out she is pregnant (12 weeks). She is afraid to tell her father and feels she will embarrass her family. She is having very negative thoughts about whether our marriage would last - ...
A. 7 March 2008: Her mother who she was very close too died three years ago and I suppose she misses having her to confide in. She does not have a particularly close relationship with her father. She is also in conflict with her sister at the moment (they are not ... (read in full...)
My gf wants to move to another town so as not to embarass her family with the premarital pregnancy, but this would ruin our relationship because I cannot follow her! What to do??
Q. We were due to be married in April but girlfriend has since found out she is pregnant (12 weeks). She is afraid to tell her father and feels she will embarrass her family. She is having very negative thoughts about whether our marriage would last - ...
A. 7 March 2008: My fiance is 38 and has a respectable job. I think she feels embarrassed by her current predicament - worries too much what others think. I think a lot of this is due to her father. She is a fluent french speaker so language is not an issue. She ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to give her space in the hope you will come round in time ?
Q. My girlfriend and I split up 6 weeks ago after 3 1/2 years together. Over the past few weekends we have met up talked and been intimate together. I have finally got it out of her that she is still angry with me for a row that happened last august ...
A. 16 May 2007: Thanks for all the advice.
I have let her know that I love her and am sorry for all the hurt I ever caused and hope that she can start trusting in me again soon. I'll just have to see how it goes.... (read in full...)
She said all we had going for us was the sex! We broke up but are trying again but shes so cold and distant, what should I do to make it work ?
Q. Hi my girlfriend and I split up about 6 weeks ago after 3 1/2 years together. The major reason for our break up was probably because we didn't see enough of each other due to work. We didn't contact each other really for a month but Over the past ...
A. 14 May 2007: Met again over the weekend.She finally told me that she is finding it hard to trust me again because of stuff that happened last august when I admit I treated her badly. I had thought that we had moved on from that but obviously she hasn't forgiven ... (read in full...)
She won't work on this relationship! Has she has been pressured by her friends and family?
Q. My girlfriend and I of three years split up 3 weeks ago after a series of petty rows. Despite my best efforts she says she no longer wants to try in our relationship. I know we both really love each other and that she is hurting just as much as I ...
A. 19 April 2007: Thank you for your advice.
I am moving on even though it is hard especially when you hear she is missing me and loves me still. But if she's not prepared to work on things then I am better off out of it.... (read in full...)
She won't work on this relationship! Has she has been pressured by her friends and family?
Q. My girlfriend and I of three years split up 3 weeks ago after a series of petty rows. Despite my best efforts she says she no longer wants to try in our relationship. I know we both really love each other and that she is hurting just as much as I ...
A. 19 April 2007: Hi,
Well I have had no contact in the past couple of weeks. I spoke with her sister a couple of days ago and she told me that my ex misses me badly and saw a long term future with me - how confusing is that? - I told her that she won't talk so ther... (read in full...)
We fought over trivial issues, I think we didnt spend enough time together, now she wont give us another go! Help!!
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and I broke up last week after 3 years together. We have had a pretty rocky last couple of months and we have had a couple of major fights at least once a month for the past number of months. We can both be stubborn and when we ...
A. 29 March 2007: Thanks for the advice - I am hurting right now and know that she is probably too. I think we probably need a bit of time apart to get things into perspective. I don't want to push her anymore - I have given her a letter outlining my feelings for her ... (read in full...)
She wants to move on and I'm finding it hard to accept..what should I do?
Q. Hi I have just broken up with my girlfriend after 3 and a half years together. Recently we have been fighting over really stupid little things and are both to stubborn to say sorry and so let things get out of control.I feel that a major part of our ...
A. 27 March 2007: Thank you for your answer - you are probably right and I know I must face up to that. I will let things now run there course and hopefully after some time apart she will see things in a more positive way. I think I was a good generous and loving ... (read in full...)
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