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*edjpd
writes:Hi my girlfriend and I split up about 6 weeks ago after 3 1/2 years together. The major reason for our break up was probably because we didn't see enough of each other due to work. We didn't contact each other really for a month but Over the past two weekends we have met up and talked and ended up sleeping together.When we are together things are fine although she says she finds it hard to talk to me. We have talked about things and she says she finds it hard to talk to me and that the only good thing in our relationship was our sex life. At times she says she just wants to be friends but when I go to leave she makes me stay. Last sunday we decided that we could try again but she still is apprehensive. Since then she has been very cool and distant in answering my texts and on the phone and we haven't been able to meet up. I rang her last night and she didn't return my call until 5.30 this morning when she was drunk. She seems confused as to what she really wants - one minute it's friends the next it's more. Her coldness at times is also making me question her love for me. This is getting me really frustrated as I can't live my life in this limbo - should I just cut my losses and get out now or give her more time? I sent her a message today just telling her she was confusing me with her actions and that she needs to decide what she really wants. I have met a couple of girls in the interim but have done nothing more than talk/flirt with them until I get this sorted out. I have told her that I still love her and am prepared to give it a go but that both of us will need to make the effort to make it work.She works with a lot of younger single girls - 18-20 (she is 26) and has been spending a lot of social time with them recently since we split although I know she has not seen anyone else yet - I don't know if this is effecting her behaviour or not.I would just like some advice as to what I should do.
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reader, redjpd +, writes (14 May 2007):
redjpd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMet again over the weekend.She finally told me that she is finding it hard to trust me again because of stuff that happened last august when I admit I treated her badly. I had thought that we had moved on from that but obviously she hasn't forgiven me.I have tried to make amends to her and don't know what else I can do.
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reader, maryann61181  +, writes (12 May 2007):
 She loves or cares about you, but is most likely into someone else, or wants to be flattered by someone else. She has younger female friends, whom are probably single and they party. She joins them and most likely has decided she would prefer this type of lifestyle, she is young. If you feel like you want more, but don't want the relationship to be every now and then, then you need to tell her what you want. If she doesn't want that, you need to let her do her thing. You can't make someone fall in love with you again. I wish it worked like that.
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