How much time and space does he need?
Q. SO, the 2 year on again,off again relationship I've been in is "on hold" for now... just when I decide I can take what he offers and wait on the rest to hopefully come in time, HE says (after some arguing when I pushed for more and he backed off and ...
A. 7 October 2007: Believe me, cognitively I KNOW all this... but somehow cannot help myself, like picking at a scab... UGH, I am messed up- maybe even self-destructing to avoid HIM hurting me in the end? TRYING here to stay clear and allow him time and stay ... (read in full...)
Why am I so picky with dating relationships and how do I fix it?
Q. Is something seriously wrong w/ me? What could be going on here??? OK, I don't know if the grass just seems greener on the other side of the proverbial fence, whether I just plain don't want a relationship deep down, am too picky or fickle or what....
A. 4 October 2007: Perhaps I do expect too much... maybe I should "settle"... maybe I should just go back to the man I love who cannot offer me the rest, as at least I love him, (rather than "faking it" w/ a nice guy who offers all those things I want but whom I feel ... (read in full...)
Why am I so picky with dating relationships and how do I fix it?
Q. Is something seriously wrong w/ me? What could be going on here??? OK, I don't know if the grass just seems greener on the other side of the proverbial fence, whether I just plain don't want a relationship deep down, am too picky or fickle or what....
A. 4 October 2007: YES, I still love my ex... always will... he had more of my heart and soul than anyone else ever, including my ex hubby of 15 yrs! STILL, I cannot stay there and always long for the stuff that is missing. He's made it clear that although he wishes ... (read in full...)
Why am I so picky with dating relationships and how do I fix it?
Q. Is something seriously wrong w/ me? What could be going on here??? OK, I don't know if the grass just seems greener on the other side of the proverbial fence, whether I just plain don't want a relationship deep down, am too picky or fickle or what....
A. 4 October 2007: Thanks...
what I want:
Spark, chemistry, attraction, compatibility, that "feeling" of excitement and infatuation, arousal.
Someone with a good heart- caring, empathetic, caring, makes me a priority, adores me, compliments me, spoils me a little ... (read in full...)
Why am I so picky with dating relationships and how do I fix it?
Q. Is something seriously wrong w/ me? What could be going on here??? OK, I don't know if the grass just seems greener on the other side of the proverbial fence, whether I just plain don't want a relationship deep down, am too picky or fickle or what....
A. 3 October 2007: Hmmm...seems impossible, what I want. Maybe it doesn't exist. Maybe I am too choosy or have a block. UGH... (read in full...)
We broke up but he cant make up his mind what he wants. I've got a plan. What do you think??
Q. Crossroads and a "gentle ultimatum"? So, I have written before (and so appreciate the advice and comments from a caring community, TY!) about my 2+ year relationship with a man who says he doesn't know what he wants, whom I love, whom I believe l...
A. 29 August 2007: OP here...
presented him w/the trip surprise and he had excuses for not going... guess there's my answer... further talk gave me honesty that he cares for me and enjoys being with me but is not in love with me... wants to be w/ me but knows he cann... (read in full...)
Help for a man that can't commit.
Q. Are there any books, articles, other help for MEN WHO CAN'T COMMIT/LOVE? When you google it, all you find are books warning women about these men or how/why women fall for men like this. How about HELP for the man himself??? (He wants it! He ...
A. 23 August 2007: Thanks again, Frank..
LOL... therapy?? Noooo... he will NOT go, tried, begged, threatened. NOPE. He does read and I sent him the link toyour book and other things and he thanked me and said he's reading stuff...
He DOES play out the little b... (read in full...)
Help for a man that can't commit.
Q. Are there any books, articles, other help for MEN WHO CAN'T COMMIT/LOVE? When you google it, all you find are books warning women about these men or how/why women fall for men like this. How about HELP for the man himself??? (He wants it! He ...
A. 23 August 2007: Thanks Frank...
*I* think he is a little boy is many ways, BUT he's also a responsible, hard working contientious adult. I mainly fear he's justtoo "wounded" to let go and open up completely. His mom left his dad when he was 3 and he has only seen... (read in full...)
On again, off again? How do we move forward?
Q. How do I win him back? Onagain, off again... he doesn't know what he wants... can't fully commit, butcan't seem to leave me alone either. Right now on a break as both are tired of the yo-yo of me wanting more and his not knowing what he wants. ...
A. 18 August 2007: Oh yes... I am prepared to walk away... won't be easy, but necessaryrather being a yo yo forever if he doesn'tshow... the plan will be a vacay by myself to grieve and heal. If he comes round AFTER that I will NOT be open... enough is enough. ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to commit and move forward with our relationship?
Q. 2 years and he still says "I DON'T KNOW"... he doesn't know what he wants, doesn't know if he loves me, doesn't know anything it seems! Yet, he is kind, caring, generous, defensive of me, helpful, and faithful. Our children, siblings, parents are ...
A. 18 August 2007: C'Mon... some help???
OR are you rolling eyes thinking "I don't know means NO"? I asked that and he got upset and said, "No, I don't know means I don't KNOEW, not NO, or I'd be gone". Aaaarggh... so? What's the deal?... (read in full...)
Help for a man that can't commit.
Q. Are there any books, articles, other help for MEN WHO CAN'T COMMIT/LOVE? When you google it, all you find are books warning women about these men or how/why women fall for men like this. How about HELP for the man himself??? (He wants it! He ...
A. 18 August 2007: OK,so WHERE do I get this for him??? THANKS!
Thoughts on the situation??? What is the problem? HeSAYS I am all he's ever wanted, thinks the world of me, has tried and made efforts and progressed, but still "blocked" for some reason after 2 year... (read in full...)
On again, off again? How do we move forward?
Q. How do I win him back? Onagain, off again... he doesn't know what he wants... can't fully commit, butcan't seem to leave me alone either. Right now on a break as both are tired of the yo-yo of me wanting more and his not knowing what he wants. ...
A. 18 August 2007: Thanks...
NO NONO, the ex wife is NOT a threat, LOL... HATES her, she's nuts, cheated throughout 8 yr marriage, got pg w/ another man's baby and he's raised that child as own and she ran off finally w/ another man... he is BURNED by her and it was ... (read in full...)
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