We are co-workers--he's married and has a crush on me. Should I avoid him?
Q. Recently my best friend let me know he has a crush on me and cannot stop thinking about me. Problem is, he is married. I am single and I find him atractive, if only he were not married... I let him know I would like to keep being his friend but ...
A. 29 January 2008: Why don't you go talk to his wife about it? If you decide to have a relationship with him, you will also have a relationship with her. This is especially true of there are children. You will get to see her at birthdays, weddings, funerals... ... (read in full...)
My wife is having an emotional affair. How do I save my marriage?
Q. my wife is having an emotional affair (non physical)with a man who also happens to be an obese 30 stones in weight! He also owns the shop from which she operates her flower business. This affair has developed over the last 3 years! as I understand. ...
A. 14 January 2008: Oh sweetie. I'm so sorry. My husband’s emotional affair started almost two years ago. He's all hot for a woman who is young enough to be our daughter.
First, will you wife go to counseling with you?
Second, do something she loves together...h... (read in full...)
How can he expect me to be his rock when in fact I'm more like soft concrete?
Q. My partner’s divorce is just coming through. He is depressed and not very nice to my small son and I, sometimes. Everyone sees him as a lovely man and when we first started out I could talk to him about anything, he was my rock. Now it is my ...
A. 9 January 2008: Depression is real. He needs to get help (maybe an RX) and get through his divorce. Give him time to heal Read a book on grief together...he is suffering from the realization that his marriage/relationship REALLY failed...and he knows he played a ... (read in full...)
I discovered my husband had a flig with his ex when he was my fiance! Do I stay with him? Our daughter is 3.
Q. i just found out that my fiancee of 4 years has had a fling with an ex then arranged our marriage i only found out after we got married because she text him to say he was mad do i stay with him or not we have a 3yr old little girl...
A. 9 January 2008: Yes, if you are both willing to get help. WHy do you think for one minute that marriage is easy? That your spouse, boyfirend, fience or whatever won't be attracted to other people? He will and you will. The real question is "what are you going to ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting to much after a physical and emotional affair?
Q. My fiancee cheated on me with a co-worker in September '07. The night it happened her, the person with whom she cheated with and some of their mutual friends from work went out drinking. To make a long story short, after that night she started ...
A. 3 January 2008: Get help NOW. Your marriage is worth saving. You and she need to get to a counseler. If you think you hurt now, wait until later. Something has to change. YOu are a person of value and it is NOT ok for her to hurt you. If she is not willing to ... (read in full...)
My ex husband cheated on me and I was laden with guilt for seeing a married man - so I ended up confronting his wife. Opinions?
Q. I am a recently divorced 57 year old woman. I met a man the same age as me through work. We started a friendship which ended up being very passionate. After about three months he told me he was actually married. He said his wife lived in another ...
A. 1 January 2008: I think you were very brave to contact his wife. I've been told so many people not to contact my husbands girl-friend, and I haven't...but I TOTALLY understand why you did it, and I don't think it was 100% wrong.
When someone gets married the two ... (read in full...)
Flirting gone way, way too far... should my husband's co-worker be told?
Q. My husband is in love with a co-worker. She started working at his company in August 2006. He shared with me that he was in love with her in May 2007. He has always been an incessant flirt, and she probably doesn't realize how much he "gets off" ...
A. 18 December 2007: OK, I have not contacted her. What kills me is she "MUST" know he really really likes her...because everyone else at his work see's it and knows (I have a good friend who works there and confirmed this). Now I'm a bit imbarrested for my husband. ... (read in full...)
Even though it is just a friendship, since she kept it a secret I am disturbed and want it over
Q. 8 months ago I discovered my wife was emailing an old guy friend I had never met that she had known from high school. She had written like 40 emails, all very long, one a day. I was very hurt and mad that she did not even bother telling me as ...
A. 13 December 2007: This is where my marriage problems started 8 months ago. First he was just "emailing" old friends. But the adrenaline rush from that was wearing off...so he went looking for more old friends...then started Email, IM' and corresponding via FaceBook ... (read in full...)
I'm a married man but became utterly obsessed with a young co-worker. We've been friends for a while but I just can't stop thinking that I'm destined to be with her
Q. Hi, I am a married male with children, and I love my wife very much. I hired this girl (who has a boyfriend) who was almost 20 years younger than me for a 1 year term. She is extremely sociable, and has a good relationship with almost everyone she ...
A. 13 December 2007: And how is this affecting the woman you've spent 20 years with? and your children? You are causing long term damage to them...and you know it...and they know it...if they don't they will.
I have been utterly devastated my husbands "emotion... (read in full...)
My husband is ruining my self confidence by constantly critizising me, how can I deal with this?
Q. Hi, I am newly married n staying with my husband from August. we had a made a choice of our own through matrimonial site.ours age is same(31 yrs) except he is a month older than me. My Problm is after i hv joined him he continues on critisising ...
A. 12 December 2007: Is he vrom a family where critizism is used as a "normal" form of communication? If so, he probably doesn't even realize how hurtful it is. Sarcaism can be the same way. People that are raised using it don't often realize how it hurts other.
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