How do I deal with a guy I dated? I've moved on, he hasn't.
Q. Hi everyone, I need advice on my situation. I met a guy back in December who was really lovely and had a great personality. I wasn't really attracted to him like that but he asked me out on a date and as I wasn't seeing anybody at the time I kind ...
A. 4 March 2014: You are being too nice. Tell him you're seeing someone else and request that he stop contacting you with suggestive messages. If he does not stop, change your number. And by the way, what does your boyfriend think?... (read in full...)
I feel awful, mostly to put her through this but I don't know what to do
Q. I am 28 years old and am recently married. Believe it or not, I was a virgin until I got married. I live in India where some families are conservative and my parents always told me that physical intimacy is ok with only a life partner. They didn...
A. 16 December 2013: Your situation is obviously based in your culture, and while I respect that, I have no experience in that are so ill just comment as an American.
Here, it is a common challenge for some men to come to terms with a woman's sexual past. I have had... (read in full...)
Am I being too insensitive to his feelings or is he too insensitve to mine?
Q. Here is my issue, and maybe I'm being too sensitive and insecure. I am pregnant by my boyfriend of 2 years who has lived a few hours away. He moved in with me a week ago and ever since then its seemed so different. He got a job here in my state ...
A. 25 November 2013: Maybe you should ask him if its just a hard adjustment, and that hearing him say that stuff makes it sound like he regrets the decision to come. You could say you hope not, but just feeling a little sensitive and need some reassurance. Should be no ... (read in full...)
Should I continue being friends with my ex-lover?
Q. I don't know if I should continue being "friends" with my ex. My hopes is of course to get back together. We dated only 3 months, he broke up with me due to still not over his ex who left him for another man. Said he was not ready for a ...
A. 7 November 2013: As a guy, I can tell you unequivocally that what this guy THINKS he wants is not the same as he ACTUALLY wants.
He has convinced himself that he made a mistake by dumping you. Now it's true that sometimes breakups don't always have to stick, e... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble accepting her story about this "friend"
Q. Hi. I have a situation where I need an objective opinion before I act with too much haste and ruin everything. I have been with my fiancée for a little over two years now and I thought everything was going great up until about a week ago. S...
A. 4 November 2013: Dear friend, I have so many responses but Ill stick to 2 for now... 1. Most pathological liars and personality-challenged individuals will explode on you when you call them out on their dishonesty. That is a well-known method of ensuring THAT co... (read in full...)
New girlfriend is friends with recent lovers. Feels bad to me.
Q. New relationship-about 5 weeks. We are both in our 40s. Recently, she went out with an ex-BF who she briefly dated, but didn't work out, but continued sleeping with, most recently a few weeks before she and I met. She told me after the fact t...
A. 21 October 2013: Well we spoke about it. My impression was that she was surprised that I felt this way and that she was being asked to compromise her values. (Ie-"dump" friends). I said I wasn't asking her to dump her friends, but that recent lovers are not simply ... (read in full...)
New girlfriend is friends with recent lovers. Feels bad to me.
Q. New relationship-about 5 weeks. We are both in our 40s. Recently, she went out with an ex-BF who she briefly dated, but didn't work out, but continued sleeping with, most recently a few weeks before she and I met. She told me after the fact t...
A. 19 October 2013: Thank you everyone. Your responses are so helpful.... (read in full...)
Husband slept with gorgeous coworker. Is it unreasonable to ask him to find another job?
Q. My husband had an affair with a gorgeous female co-worker. He felt guilty and admitted everything to me. I am devastated but would like to work on rebuilding our marriage. Am I being unreasonable for asking him to find another job? They see ea...
A. 23 June 2013: You said in your post that you want to work on the marriage. Are you sure? You describe that you are devastated. I don't blame you one bit. He betrayed you, and you have every right to feel angry and hurt. I wonder if you are asking the right... (read in full...)
Is my recent ex dating already?
Q. Dated ex gf for year and half. She broke up with me 5 months ago. A few weeks ago she contacts me and says still in love with me, misses me, and wanted to spend all kinds of time together. It was great because I still loved her. She then says ...
A. 30 May 2013: Thank you Cindycares. I agree on the technicality thing. But I just can't help the way I feel. I would never allow someone to believe I want to get back with her after dumping her, and then when she buys in, take it all back and say never mind, ... (read in full...)
Is my recent ex dating already?
Q. Dated ex gf for year and half. She broke up with me 5 months ago. A few weeks ago she contacts me and says still in love with me, misses me, and wanted to spend all kinds of time together. It was great because I still loved her. She then says ...
A. 30 May 2013: Well, here's a follow up. I finally confronted her on all this stuff. Turns out she had been dating just one or two days after she told me that she didn't want to date me any more. No way could that have just come together in 24 hours, so obviously ... (read in full...)
Is my recent ex dating already?
Q. Dated ex gf for year and half. She broke up with me 5 months ago. A few weeks ago she contacts me and says still in love with me, misses me, and wanted to spend all kinds of time together. It was great because I still loved her. She then says ...
A. 29 May 2013: Thanks everyone for your responses. My mind tells me that I am not going to come away from that conversation feeling satisfied, but my heart is breaking and thinks that if I can just ask this one time, I can let go and move on. ... (read in full...)
My wife got pregnant by her lover and had a secret abortion!
Q. This is difficult but I will just say it. My wife had an affair with a person I considered my friend and got pregnant. She made arrangements with her lover (also married) and had a secret abortion one year ago. We have been married for 6 years and ...
A. 25 May 2013: My friend, I cannot possibly fathom this marriage surviving. You need to be brutally honest with yourself and ask, could I really forgive an affair, then an attempt to cover it up by having an abortion, then keeping it a secret until you ... (read in full...)
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