Am I "withholding love" and therefore being manipulative??
Q. When my partner and I have a bad fight, she leaves for days, and I'm unable to display love. It feels fake if in the middle of everything I said "I love you so much" or "How are you doing, I miss you". I'm not withholding love as a punishment or to ...
A. 17 November 2016: If she just gets up and leaves every time you argue then surely that's her being a bit manipulative. I expect you've already told her you don't like her leaving for days and she still carries on doing it then complaining you are doing things she ... (read in full...)
I don’t to give my girlfriend visible hickies or love bites!
Q. Adults only please; this questions is not suitable for young readers. My gf has grown to love rough sex that leaves marks. I oblige but I draw the line at anything visible - often neck hickies or love bits. I don't want others to either see her a...
A. 15 November 2016: I think people can tell the difference between love bites and physical abuse, it's not like your going to start punching her in the eye to get her aroused.
Is the worry about being accused of abuse the only thing stopping you doing it? Or is it... (read in full...)
Facebook jealousy is making me resentful and bitter
Q. I saw a question posted a while back similar to this, as I seem to have the same problem. I recently had to deactivate my Facebook account because everyone posting constantly about their wonderful lives is making me really jealous and resentful of ...
A. 15 November 2016: I'm sure others will tell you the same but people will only post the very best bits of their lives, it's like life's edit button, you only see what they want you to see. I know you have photos of their luxurious holidays rubbed in your face but it... (read in full...)
Can I ever get my thoughts under control?
Q. I wanted to write this to see if anyone has had any success in dealing with this or if there is no hope for me to resolve my issues. I have been in therapy and with medication since I was young I'm 31 now. I was diagnosed with OCD at 12. The last ...
A. 14 November 2016: I think you need to get the doctor to reassess your medication and see where the therapy is going wrong as it doesn't seem to be working. We could all say you just need to stop thinking these things, what's the worst that could happen, you are ... (read in full...)
I read my sister's old life planning journals and I am shocked at what I found!
Q. My sister graduated university last june and as a result had a whole box of old stationary/notepads in her room at home which my mum said I could borrow since she left them behind when she moved out (she's currently renting a flat for a year as ...
A. 14 November 2016: If she's happy now there's no need to bring it up. You never know she could end up thinking all those thoughts again and remind her of things she might not even feel any more. I have a twin sister and at the moment I feel like I'm just as pret... (read in full...)
How to avoid being tempted?
Q. Hello, Here is an interesting one for you. I am married (with kids). My wife is very beautiful (former Miss), we have great sex - I can get it on demand, whatever I want, I think I love her, surely I wouldn't want to hurt her. Yet, I can't sto...
A. 14 November 2016: You really need to weigh up the pros and cons of chatting to this other woman. In my opinion the only pro I see is an ego boost and a bit of excitement but would that really be a good enough reason to possibly ruin a marriage you obviously are ... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband notice me
Q. My husband and I have been married for just over a year and together for 4 and I need help trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong. My husband spends all his spare time with his friends. He hangs out with them every single day. I hang out with my ...
A. 14 November 2016: Yes he is taking you for granted but if you keep looking after him, cleaning, cooking and doing everything for him then he will always take you for granted. Have you told him that you are not happy with the situation? It's one thing having a h... (read in full...)
Six years and no proposal; we've lived together for two. Is he stringing me along?
Q. I love my partner of 6 years. A few years into the relationship he suggested we bought a house together (at the time he had just finished his service in the military, and I was finishing University - he had saved up a house deposit during his time ...
A. 14 November 2016: He hasn't said he doesn't want to marry you, he said that he wants the same things as you. He has been with you for six years and lives with you so that's a massive commitment to you I'd say. A lot of women think of getting married from an ... (read in full...)
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