Getting over someone’s promiscuous past
Q. Hey all! I’m struggling with what seems to be a rather common mental dilemma. I’m (28M) in a monogamous relationship with a girl (29F) that I was friends with in high school. We both went away to college, didn’t really talk much for like 8-9 years, ...
A. 19 November 2022: Hi OP you may have heard of an old saying that "A man shall sow his wild oats but when he gets married he should marry a virgin" You may laugh and say that this saying is outdated but the very thing that you are concerned about shows it is still ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted to cheating. Is our daughter really mine?
Q. I have been married to my wife for 26 years now. We first met in 1991 as friends, but didn't start dating until 1993. I was 24 at the time and she was 26 when we started dating, Within 2 years we were engaged and then she gave birth to our daught...
A. 3 June 2022: Hi OP
You said that your wife had been having an affair since 1994. Does that mean her affair is still ongoing or has it come to an end?
One reason that your wife has confessed her affair to you is that one day her daughter may do an Ancestry D... (read in full...)
Husband leading double life
Q. I’VE discovered my husband has been leading a double life for 20 years – and paying out huge sums of money to support his secret family. He always told me he was supporting an education project near Johannesburg — now I realise he was funding his ...
A. 3 June 2022: Hi OP I am sorry that you are going through this I first read your post in the Dear Deidre section of The Sun newspaper website.
Your husband has been carrying on with an affair for 20 years I would think that there is no comming back from tha... (read in full...)
My wife is pregnant by another man
Q. I have a problem with my wife I do not know how to deal with. We have a happy open relationship with one child, we have been married six years and my wife has an African American boyfriend. She recently told me she is pregnant I know the baby i...
A. 18 February 2022: Hi OP Did you and your wife not discuss the possibility of your wife having someone else's baby, as no birth control is 100 percent effective. The other possibility is that your wife got pregnant to her lover on purpose. You need to have an ope... (read in full...)
Ever since our threesome, I'm quite attracted to this man
Q. im 26 years old.female, married 3 years ,no kids and need some advice...about a year ago my husband and i had a threesome with a single friend of ours, after having a few drinks together at a bar...it wasnt my idea for this to happen , but it ...
A. 11 January 2022: Hi OP there is one question that no one has asked and that is have you and your husband talked about the threesome? or have you and your husband just carried on as as usual.
OP communication is key to a successful marriage you need to ask your... (read in full...)
Ever since our threesome, I'm quite attracted to this man
Q. im 26 years old.female, married 3 years ,no kids and need some advice...about a year ago my husband and i had a threesome with a single friend of ours, after having a few drinks together at a bar...it wasnt my idea for this to happen , but it ...
A. 7 January 2022: Hi OP you can blame your husband for initiating the threeseome but you also must take some blame as you could of said NO. As husbands have told their wives when they have been caught cheating 'It didn't mean anything it was just sex' and you can ... (read in full...)
I'm married and want to have sex with a man I work with
Q. I am married to wonderful man. We are white with two sons. Recently I have become infatuated with a black man at work. He is a polite and gentlemanly. I find myself thinking and fantasizeing about having sex with him. Is it wrong to have a ...
A. 22 December 2021: OP why do you want have sex with another man when you say you have a wonderful husband? Is this to full fill a fetish to have sex with a black man. As they say a black man has a larger penis than white men etc.
You are damaging your marriage as y... (read in full...)
Is this the end of Dear Cupid?
Q. Is this site reaching the end of its life? Not to say that I want it to be but are we actually providing a genuine service to anybody any more? Back in the "good old days" we'd have a couple of hundred questions posted every month. Now we do...
A. 22 December 2021: Hi RubyBirtle I have been reading the posts on this website on and off for a number of years without posting a reply. I have read through various posts starting from the beginning (November 2004) until now, over the last few years.
What makes yo... (read in full...)
My fiance still puts his ex wife as number 1
Q. So my fiance and I have had a bumpy relationship. When we first got together like officially, his ex wife didn't want to let go and accept he didn't want their relationship anymore. Things got out of control so we took a break for a year, with ...
A. 12 November 2021: Hi OP I am sorry you are feeling this way.
1 - You should get legal advice about issues with your child.If you do not marry your fiance or you get divorced later, and judging by what you wrote you will be in for a legal battle for custody ... (read in full...)
My wife and a stranger having sex
Q. Ive always have been interested in watching my wife sleep with a random guy. Shes never joked about anything like that so im unsure on how she would react. How do i go about bringing it up without upsetting her?...
A. 27 October 2021: OP do not even think about this it could destroy your marriage. Do some searching on this website and you will find that things like threesomes, swinging and your fantasies end in disaster for the marriage. Some things to consider:
- What happens ... (read in full...)
He shared my intimate photo with somebody else. What do I do?
Q. I sent an intimate photo to the guy I’m dating. You can’t see my face and there’s no full nudity, but it’s implied. Anyway, he was at a bar the other night and he told me this woman kept hitting on him. She wouldn’t leave him alone even thoug...
A. 13 October 2021: How long have you been dating your boyfriend? No one, woman or man should send intimate photos to their boyfriends,girlfriends,partners phone. Not even a husband because if there is a bitter breakup those photos can be used as revenge porn and sent ... (read in full...)
My wife was crying on our wedding day because she was thinking about her ex!!
Q. I got married almost a month ago. My wife and I have been together for three years and known each other for five. She had just gotten out of a seven year relationship when we met. He was her first love and they broke up because he was on drugs and ...
A. 1 September 2021: Hi OP this is a horrible situation with your wife. Your wife could have keep this information to herself but she chose not to, she maybe giving you a hint that she is not fully invested in this marriage. She should have dealt with the feelings for ... (read in full...)
My wife was crying on our wedding day because she was thinking about her ex!!
Q. I got married almost a month ago. My wife and I have been together for three years and known each other for five. She had just gotten out of a seven year relationship when we met. He was her first love and they broke up because he was on drugs and ...
A. 31 August 2021: I am sorry that you are going through this. Your wife could have kept this information to herself but she callously told you about it. She could be hinting that she is not fully invested in this marriage.
You should sit down with her and talk abo... (read in full...)
I feel I should withhold sex from my husband because he made me feel bad about my boobs. Am I overreacting?
Q. I am so LIVID right now. I was just out at the store trying on dresses for an upcoming event. My husband usually accompanies me as he likes to watch me model clothes and weighs in with his opinion. Well his opinion does matter to me as he is my ...
A. 27 August 2021: OP you are definatley over reacting. You no doubt want honesty in marriage but when your husband was honest with you went off him. You only wanted your husband to say what you wanted to hear. (You should not Ask The Question If You Don't Want To ... (read in full...)
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