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writes:Hello, I have a prob! okay so yeah theres this amazing guy who is incredible he is the sweetest and the funniest dude i know! but... here it comes! hes my teacher!! i hate it so much!! i mean why cant i just have a crush or whatever on a boy that is ages with me!! ohh no i have to fall in love with the 40-summit year old art teacher :@look, i am not very experienced in ''relationships'' as im only 16 (nearly 17!!) but, i know what love is okay! so dont even bother replyin bk sayin ''ur too young blah blah blah'' coz the truth of the matter is that i am not! and i have bn in a realtionship with my bf for the last year and a half! so i know what love is okay, but i am startin to feel stronger toward my teacher... he is so hot tho! and my bf usually makes jokes about it and says ''hes a perv! and fancies u'' but he isnt a perve i just know he isnt, he doesnt seem the type.Its the things he says to me yknow that makes me fall in love with him more. ''you really are amazing''''she knows im kiddin on, shes my star pupil''''ur a star''jsut general stuff and recently he has started touchin my arm while he is sayin something to me, and yesterday he put his two hands on my shoulders and patted them for like a minute sayin ''your doing a great job (on my art piece btw)''''i only tease the people i really like, and out of the full department your the one i tease the most???i mean wtf! okay i mean your all probly gonna say that this dude is being friendly and he is a teacher and there is no way on gods planet that he is gonna feel attracted to you or whatever, but may i just say this one thing, basically out of every teacher in my school he is the only one that acts like this honestly, this guy is inmature and all the other teachers are strict and well yknow they dont act like this at all!!the sweetest thing was when he said to my full class - some of us arent doing enough work and jsut chat and we know who these ppl are hwen we look at there work! but there are others who work really hard and there work is amazing, then when he was opening up an art room he came in behind me and said i was talkin about u btw, and i said when? and he said in the class its true u are the hardest workeing person in this department...and then he said he shouted at me and all my mates one day so i took him aside and said y are you threatin to kick me out your department? i mean one min am brill to u and the next im a troubel maker and he said no i wasnt shoutin at u, and then i said but i was in the group?? and he said i know but i wasnt shoutin at u... i was shoutin at them and i dont want you to go out of my department why would i want to do that?? your the least person that i would want to kick out...i know i have went on for a bit but theres more but, i aint gonan bore u lot any morehelp would be very much appreciated!!XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): Hiya.
I'm the same age as you and was in the same position as you are too. So I'm not going to take the mick out of you or be mean to you or anything like that. But I am gonna be realistic and not treat you like an idiot.
I understand completely what you're going through and where you're coming from, but it's easy to misinterpret someone's actions when you like them as much as you seem to like this guy. From what you've said I wouldn't say that your teacher likes you, it just seems that you're immense at art and he appreciates the skill you have and the effort you put in.
I was the same, I thought that the teacher I liked had feelings back, there was some more complicated stuff than here (I think he knew I liked him, and he was a naturally flirty guy), but in reality he didn't, he was just being a good teacher.
I know everyone says this and I genuinely do know how hard it is, but you just have to soldier through it and eventually you'll get over him, as much as you're sure you won't at this moment.
I'm sorry if I've disappointed you but you need to know the truth without being mocked here :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): i think every one is being really mean and unsympathetic - i know the pain of unrequited love for a teacher. i mean, its not like we chose to fall in love with these guys ok, and getting over them is so hard, especially when u see them every day, so cut us some slack here, and maybe imagine what its like to be in this situation before writing how young and wrong and unrealistic she is, because i don't think any of of you guys are in a postion to judge her here.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 Have written into this forum about this before? You apparently are prepared for the answers we will be giving you.
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reader, melodaea +, writes (25 October 2007):
 You are only 16. You ARE too young. Why are you asking for our advice if you've obviously no intention of listening to our opinions?
I'm sorry to break it to you, but your teacher does not fancy you.
At his age and your age he is old enough to be your father. If in the unlikely event that he fancies you, then it IS perverted. Do you even know if he has a wife? And kids maybe? It's unprofessional and could get him losing his job and getting locked up in jail!
You're obviously a whizz at art and hard-working, but he's been trained to give you encouragement when you're doing well, this isn't to be interpreted as flirting.
What worries me most is that you mention having a boyfriend. Why are you even with him if you're ultimately going to cheat on him, or going to lust over the unattainable?
My advice: have some respect for him and your relationship with him, get this teacher out of your head and concentrate on your studies.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 :D i only wish i can make u read a poem it is about a girl who is 16 in love with her teacher who is 63 ! the poem is one of the greatest poems i have ever!(true poem by the way it is for nizar kabbani) in that poem she says tell me love words even if they weren't true cz i just feel that u r a sculpture.... read i don't wanna lecture u but i think this is impossible :(sorry really !even if he thinks it is a gd idea i think that this is a crush manyyy girls get that relax u will get over him ...
why don't u try going out with someone your own age even maybe that would seem lame for you but you will find someone who u can love and loves u back ...... be careful and gd luck bye
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (24 October 2007):
 heya hun x
by what you have written you seem to not care what anybody has to say, you think he loves you and thats that
so why are you asking for advice about what ?
he cannot have a relationship with you , he would lose his job if he did hun
your not being realistic
you are best to drop it even if he likes you he cant be with you
take care even tho your not going to listen to me
¬chris¬
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