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writes:My gf and I have been dating for two years. I want to write her a love letter but need help. What to say? I would like our relationship to be more intimate. Can I mention that in a love letter? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2022): I don't have advice about what to put in a love letter. I think it is pretty obvious not to put an actual request for sex in it. I will admit I am going to steal your idea about writing a love letter and one for my girlfriend, so thanks for the fun idea. I will read to see what other advice people give about what to put in it. If she is religious, maybe you can find something from the Bible. I am not sure where that would be in the Bible, but I am just saying there is nice stuff in there.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (4 May 2022):
 I would just write from the heart, express your true feelings of how you feel, and more importantly how she make you feel.
I would refrain from saying anything sexual as it could come across the wrong way, just stick to your heart felt feelings.
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reader, QueenCupcake +, writes (1 May 2022):
 No, I wouldn’t bring that into your love letter, that just looks like an attempt to get into her panties. That conversation needs to be had in person. Sex is a big step, especially if it’s your first time?
With your love letter, just write how she makes you feel.
Good qualities, how much you love her. Where you see yourself with her.
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reader, RitaBrown +, writes (30 April 2022):
Nah, a love letter is not a good way to bring up sexual topics for the first time.
You and she should have a serious discussion in person.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (30 April 2022):
 Frankly, a "love letter" is not really the place to bring up having sex. This is something you need to discuss at length and make sure (a) you are both in agreement and (b) you are using the safest contraception possible, and that you know how to use it correctly, so that there is minimal chance of your girlfriend falling pregnant. If you are going to rely on condoms for instance, practice putting them on beforehand so you know what you are doing.
If you feel you are mature enough to have sex, then you should be mature enough to discuss it.
Assuming your girlfriend is of a similar age to you, she may not yet be ready for a "more intimate" relationship. If she seems hesitant, be prepared to back off and leave sex on a back burner until you are both ready.
As for the love letter, you don't need to write pages and pages. Perhaps just send her a nice card with something along the lines of "When I count the blessings in my life, I count you twice" or, if that's a bit too much for you, something like "I'm so lucky to have you in my life". Put whatever feels right to YOU. There is no right or wrong way. The only proviso is, don't use is as leverage to get into her knickers. That is not the purpose of a love letter.
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