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writes:Question for for females who could possibly be open to casual sex or males with experience. I think similar has been touched on before here.You see a guy in a bar or wherever and are really attracted to him. Both agree to get together or go straight back to ones place. Before going he tells you he's on medication and although he has very high libido, gets little or no erection. He wants a night of hot foreplay without sex. He says he fully understands if you want to pull out due to this. Would you still be interested?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2017): If the question is, would penetration be necessary for every woman to have a good time, I would say no, it's not necessary. I would love lots of foreplay and orgasms and if the man was happy to engage in that and not have penetrative sex himself, then that's fine with me too!
However, casual sex with someone I've just met is something I've never done nor would I do.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 February 2017):
 Oh, I also forgot to mention... What YOU think is "hot foreplay" might NOT be so hot for a random woman. Not EVERY woman likes oral or whatever you have on the menu. I think VERY hit foreplay is really BEST with a person who KNOWS you and your body.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 February 2017):
I would feel like an object of someone's kink. And while I didn't DO casual sex or ONS's - IF I were to have one, it would NOT be for "hot foreplay".
I have had a guy ask me once if I was interested in him "pampering' my feet. (his fetish) and while I don't find it sexual I said no thanks, because I had no desire for someone to get all excited of my feet.
I would NOT mention it or find a GF/partner who is OK with this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2017): Wouldn't it also depend on how much they're attracted to him and to his personality? Eg if they really enjoyed the initial chat and company and found him more physically attractive to others(which is why they tried to get his attention in the first place)?
I would be interested to hear if you think that'd make a difference positively
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reader, N91 +, writes (9 February 2017):
 That would be an extremely odd thing to bring up and I really couldn't see that being enticing for a female.
Either just don't mention it or don't go to bars looking for random people to have casual relations with.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 February 2017):
 Personally, I would not. A casual encounter is not about getting to know someone, or establishing bonds etc.... it's basically about sheer indulgence . And it's not real indulgence of your senses if you have to deal with proviso and limitations. It's like being invited for dinner out to a fancy restaurant- on condition though that you can only order certain dishes but not others , or you can order a full meal but you can only have tap water with it. Thanks but no thanks , then. I guess that if one is really famished the offer might still be appealing , otherwise, if you are reasonably sure that you can get other less restrictive offers, why bother.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (9 February 2017):
 WOW! THERE'S a chat-up line you don't hear every day!!!!
Personally I don't do one night stands as I don't feel comfortable having sex with someone I have only just met, so I may not be the best person to answer this. HOWEVER, trying to put myself in the shoes of friends who have no problem with doing this, I think, as they would not know the guy well enough to know if he was genuine, they would probably freak out and run for the hills, thinking he had some "weird" agenda.
I think this sort of proposition is probably better saved for someone you know a little better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2017): I love hot foreplay.
Which leads to sex.
About picking up a stranger in a bar and getting down and dirty that same night, that is where I would not be interested.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (9 February 2017):
 I personally wouldn't, I feel uncomfortable about a guy I don't know going down on me or just focusing on my pleasure when it's a casual encounter, but that's because I interpret vaginal sex as mutual and therefore more casual/less intimate activity than someone concentrating on getting me off. I could see some girls going for it.
I don't know if you even need to go into such detail though. If it doesn't work and it's for casual times you could pull the whole "oh this never happens to me/too many drinks" lines, maybe this seems too sociopathic but feel there's no need to be honest if you plan on never seeing them again..
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