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writes:If your boyfriend watches Internet porn should you film an internet porn film of yourself?My boyfriend watches porn, even though he thinks I don't know it. He goes on the internet, and he consistently lies about going on the porn sites, even though I find them every day in my Web History. He has wanted me to take it anally, get leather and whips, and even give him a "Golden shower." He also wants me to swallow it in his face. I have seen these things on a site, and I was wondering...would he love me more if I was a porn film?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): No. you will never be able to compete. One person already said it: Variety!
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 He wouldn't love you more, but he'd certainly get turned on!
Only do these things if you really feel like doing it yourself. For instance, do you have a secret desire to be filmed in a golden shower flick? Then go for it! It could be a huge turn on for the both of you. But don't go and do something you don't want because you're expecting "love". That would be a bad idea.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Sex is more then just the old missionary. How much more, well that depends on what you are comfortable with. Lots of couples have different fantasies and most just work out a compromise with what they are willing to do. You are allowed fantasies as well.
I wouldn't immidiatly link porn with any of these fantasies, after all they existed long before film was invented.
Examine what is out there and what you would be comfortable doing yourself. What happens behind closed doors is nobody's business but the two of you.
But the starring in a movie? Bad idea. What if he puts it on the net to brag or revenge?
But yeah, men want to marry an angel outside, a whore in the bedroom and a queen in the kitchen. I wouldn't say it makes him love you more but it might spice up your sex life.
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reader, happytochat +, writes (13 July 2008):
PsyCookie got it right when she said "This is just like the equivalent for a 15-year-old to ask his 13-year-old girlfriend to sleep with him so she can "prove" him she loves him."
So really, ask yourself what would you say to a 13 year old girl in that situation? Tell that to yourself.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (13 July 2008):
 His habit of watching porn is not about you. It is an addiction.
It is a scary thing to think that the more porn one watches the more callused they become to it, the more hard core it becomes to satisfy.
Research has shown that pornography and its messages are involved in shaping attitudes and encouraging behavior that can harm individual users and their families. Pornography use is often viewed in secret, which creates deception within marriages that can lead to divorce in some cases. In addition, pornography promotes the allure of adultery, prostitution and unreal expectations that can result in dangerous promiscuous behavior.
Please check out the link I am providing where I have taken the previous paragraph from. It may give you more insight on the matter. Doc
http://www.filterguide.com/harmful.htm
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reader, Miss twinzee  +, writes (13 July 2008):
its very natural for a man to watch porn even tho women foot like it. If you foot want to do a porn film then i am sure that your husband wont love you any less and if he does then he isn worth it
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): You poor dear, don't feel pressured by your boyfriend's hi-jacked sexuality to do things you don't want to do! He knows he is out of line, but he wants to at least try and ask just in case he gets lucky and you say yes....
Don't put anything on film, you never know where it will show up, besides, even if you were a porn star, he would still watch porn. It's about variety.
It does not sound like this guy is very nice to you at all, perhaps you should leave him and find someone who treats you better
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (13 July 2008):
 No, he would not. If a guy asks you to do something like this to prove your love, then this guy doesn't love you. This is just like the equivalent for a 15-year-old to ask his 13-year-old girlfriend to sleep with him so she can "prove" him she loves him.
Now if your question is really that if you should do the things they do in bed would make him love you more? Well, he will probably WILL get turned on more than usual. The trick here is that if you go that way, something that you didn't mention. New sex positions spice up a relationship and it's sometimes fun to try, but only if you're comfortable to do so.
Good luck and I hope you and your guy find a mid ground about this.
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reader, rcn +, writes (13 July 2008):
 This isn't about him, it's about you. How do you feel about porn? How do you feel about his hiding this obsession? Are you willing to compromise yourself to please your boyfriend? If not, why are you allowing him to request you do so?
You are your own person. It's your body. You dictate where your body goes sexually. No one else has that over you, and you should not allow them too.
My answer to you is, only if that's what you really want to do. Don't let anyone cause you to go further than you want to. They don't have that right.
You said would he love me more. Come on! If you feel you need to be in a porno to have him love you more, he's not that special one you deserve to be with.
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reader, Tigger3165 +, writes (13 July 2008):
 i don't want to be closed minded... eww... a golden shower... is that stuff your into? and if that seems like something you'd be interested it, maybe video take yourselves... just a thought.... but i don't think that should make him love you anymore...
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