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writes: There is this girl i really like. She is my best friend and I think i love her but I don't want to ask her out incase she says no. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): I think you should ask her out, but make sure you dont pressure her. Make subtle hints and see how the conversation flows, ie. is she shying away from the hints or warming up?
Also, if she happens to say no, dont fret, she may not no what her feelings are towards you in that respect yet anyway, give it time. It's true that time leads to a stronger friendship and sometimes a great relationship!
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reader, Helen1986  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I think that you should tell her, you never know maybe she is feeling the same but is too scared to tell you incase you don't feel the same. Take her out for a nice meal and speak to her then. Tell her how special she is and how much you care about her. I am sure that she will be knocked off of her feet. Good luck
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reader, b3x +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I dated my best mate, infact we were together for nearly 3 years.Unfortunately though we had to break up, I guess things change plus we were both moving to university.When I look back, I can honestly say I was glad that we got together I mean he was my best mate, And to me then in everyway perfect and then he became my boyfriend and I was so happy! Even now thinking of it give's my butterflies.We didn't break uo on bad terms which I was so greatful for so I do speak to him, not as often but we still have the old chit chat.Just tell her how you feel, don't just come out with it and ask her out, let her know the situation first then give her time to think things through. If it doesn't work out don't worry about it, you still have her as a friend, and if it does....Good luck to ya both.They wouldn't say best friends make the best of lovers if it wasn't true!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 OHHHHHHHHHHHHH Sorry last part of the answer is:
1) If she says yes... perfect!!!!
2) If she says no say you're sorry and that her friendship is really important for you and you hope this won't affect it so much but that you REALLY would like to think it again as you take on so well, tell her it's hard ford you too and that you won't talk about it again or insist unless she changes her mind and tells you, you should also tell her you're ocnsidering having a serious relationship and that in case she doesn't feel like it maybe you'll try to move on but that your frienship is really important and will never end if she wants
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reader, bonym +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Sorry, in my first answer the reason I said TWO great responses is cos when I posted my response there were only 2 posts as the other answers must have been awaiting approval and were but up after the time I posted mine but were submitted earlier! Sorry guys incase you thought I was trying to say something else. xxx
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reader, bonym +, writes (24 August 2006):
Yes I do agree with Wild Thaing because I was going to say this, "A true friendship isnt one until it has been tested and tried." A close friend said that to me and its soooooooo very trye. Good luck. xXx
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Confessing your feelings to your friend will put your friendship to the test.
So the question is: Do you want to learn how strong your friendship really is?
Romantic relationships put great pressure on a friendship, but it is possible to have both in one person. If you think the risk is too great right now, then keep working on building a strong friendship. One day she might tell you that she would do anything for you and you might tell her the same thing. That's the measure of a really strong friendship. And at that time it might be less risky to confess.
I hope this helps. Good luck and take care.
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reader, bonym +, writes (24 August 2006):
Two great responses below, my dear I live every day as if it will be my last, what have you got to lose if you simply tell her how you feel, if sh eis a true best friend and she is not interested in you beyond friendship, your friendship will still survive because its solid. Astrid has given you good straight to the point advice, I agree with her completely. Good luck. xXx
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reader, layla +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I think that you should ask her to take her out for the day and say if shes had a good time or not. Have a long talk together to see wether she feels the same about you. Tell her how you feel but dont say it all at once tell her you like her slowly.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 If she says "No", and laughs in your face, just walk away sheepishly. If she says "No" and offers an excuse like her pet goldfish died and she's in mourning, laugh at her and say you were just testing the water. Make up a funny story about the time you were on a date with Brittany Spears and she wet her drawers because of your great sense of humor. . . Psych. LOL. GOOD LUCK! ! !
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Hiya
If you don't ask you wil never know... And also if you don't act on your feelings they will become apparent to her sooner or later because people just 'clock onto' things like this.
Tell her you think she is special and you wnat to take her out... tell her she has to dress up pretty fpr it as well.... That should be enough hints for her.
If she dresses up quite pretty and makes a good effort than that shows she wants to impress you, hence she likes you.
Also think about what has drawn you to her, has she been flriting with you?
I think with friends and feelings you just always have to be honest... If she feels tha same than great and if doesn't than at least you can say you done soemthing about it.
I know it's not much advice but I hope it helps a bit... If you want any more just do a follow up ad ask.
From Sexybum xox
P.S Remember nerves are good... Those butterflies are there for a reason xoxoxoxo
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reader, Astrid +, writes (24 August 2006):
I think you should invite her to dinner and for a drink and talk to her and see what happens
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