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writes:I met a man online and we are meeting face to face within a few weeks. He lives out of town about five hours a way. My question is, I do not have sex with a man, unless I fall in love with him. When I am emailing him, I am telling him about myself. I put in the email that I am not a bar person and never have been into one night stands. Is it OK, that I said this before I met him? I do not know him and do not want him to be disappointed for coming all the way here and just a kiss goodnight. I am worried, I will not hear back from him. PLease help me out.Thank you!
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 You were very right to tell him!
If he is only coming the way for sex, he is not worth! It this is the only reason for him, to see you, he can go home again right after he arrived and you don't have to feel guilty at all!
If he is not willing to wait for you, you should forget him right away! And he is not worth thinking about him one more minute!
So go your way, you know about the dignity of you and you should conserve it!
All the best to you and I hope for you, he is not the sort of person that is thinking of sex only!
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reader, Aida +, writes (3 January 2010):
 If you told him beforehand that there isn't going to be any sex then he shouldn't expect it when you meet him.
Word of advice though - meet him at a public place, take your own car don't get into the car with him, and tell someone where you're going in case something does happen(they'll know where you went and who you were with). And of course just take it easy and have fun:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): well what i think to your question is don`t worry be positive, if you been talking to him for a while and he hasn`t stoped taking to ya he well understand, if you tell him your not ready to have sex but if he doesn`t talk back to you after you date theres nothing to be sad theres other and you`ll find him like you found him.
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reader, doom  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 It's a really tricky situaiton : A) guys on itnerent are impredictable, and you don't know what to expect.
B) he may be interested in you as a person, not just to have sex.
But i think your position should be like this: have a nice dinner with him in a restaurent, and try talking a lot with him.If he is a nice guy he will be a gentlemant.If he wan'ts sex, you'll see stupid jokes or sex metaphores.And if he kisses you be gentle, and having sex first time isn't a good idea.But hope it works between you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is going to get a hotel room for himself only. I am meeting him at a restaurant and driving seperately. This is why I mentioned in my email that I am not the type to sleep with a man right away ( I am sure alot of guys would not believe that) But He will only get a kiss, that is it!
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reader, ForeverDawn +, writes (3 January 2010):
 It is great that you told him before hand he can't get disappointed because you were already clear about that I personally am not a fan of sex on first dates I think is better to hold off and show the men that you respect yourself This will make him have more respect in you as well !!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (3 January 2010):
 You have been honest with him and let him know what your standards are. Of course it's okay that you were upfront with him!
If he still wants to come and visit you, he knows what (not) to expect. If he chooses not to come, or does and then doesn't contact you afterwards, you'll know he's not worth shedding any tears over! But hopefully all will go well........
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reader, HayleyB  +, writes (3 January 2010):
If you have already told him you have never been a fan of one night stands then he shouldnt be too bothered about sex on the first date. He obviously isnt worth it if he doesnt call you after no sex or sex for that matter. just see how things go :)
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