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writes:i'm 15,i'm a sophmore in high school and i was wondering.is it normal to never have a boyfriend.i mean i've been on a date,i've been kissed,i've done hook-ups,but i never had a boyfriend and i really wanna know why probably because.i always flirt wit a guy i like and the minute i find out he likes me bamm something happens and i find something i dont like about him :/ it sucks because i know if i continue this i will probablyy be single for life..i've realized guys called me hot,cute,pretty,gorgeous,and beautiful soo whyy am i soo scared to even have a bf???i always find girls youger then me saying there in love,and i'm always staring blankly tring to figure out wat love really does mean
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (1 February 2009):
mimisoph3 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i meant by i'm really picky if i like someonee and i find out that he likes me too i pick something i dont like about him,and somehow my brain is like his no good he saw that wrong wit him..its soo frusturating.i'm soo picky and i hate it i really do cuz all i want is a bf but when it comes to that i pick something wrong wit him and i dont flirt wit him anymore ughhhhh i dont think anyone knows how i feel
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): Really, dont worry about it! i'll be 17 next month and i only just got my first boyfriend.
give it time and soon enough you'll have one too :)
you said 'i always flirt wit a guy i like and the minute i find out he likes me bamm something happens and i find something i dont like about him' if you meet a guy you like but dont give him a chance because there's one thing you dont like about him you will have a tough time finding someone because honestly, no one's perfect. everyone has something you wont like about them but unless its a serious problem it shouldn't be an issue.
hmm, maybe your scared to have a bf because your scared to get hurt? that's the one thing that's always been an issue for me because ive seen the people i care about get hurt so many times. next time you meet a boy try to build a friendship first, even if it doesn't turn into anything more it may boost up your confidence to go into a relationship the next time around.
hope this somewhat helps and good luck xx
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reader, Yos  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Although the other aunts have said don't worry about having a boyfriend, it does sound like you want one, which is a fine thing to want, if that's what you want!
You said...
"I've done hook-ups...I always flirt wit a guy i like and the minute i find out he likes me bamm something happens"
Not sure exactly what you mean by 'hook ups', but it sounds like you might be 'hooking up' with guys very quickly. Becoming intimate with someone fast is the way to make it end fast too (for many reasons). If you want something more long-lasting, I suggest holding off from hooking up when you find a guy likes you (and you like him), and taking the time to get to know him a bit first. Take it slow and it might last longer and turn into a relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (26 January 2009):
 you are still very young and you probably intimidate many of the young men that you come into contact with. You are smart, beautiful, confident, and driven and guys love that but they are afraid of it at the same time because it makes them feel incompetent somehow in relation to you. No offense guys! You don't want a man who is not on the same level as you and who can't keep your interest believe me been there done that! You will find someone when the time is right for now just enjoy the freedom of being able to do what you want with who you want! I hope this helps good luck!
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reader, carriebaby  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 You are so young to be talking about love but for boyfriends then that will eventually come. You already know guys think your hot but even though you think your ready for a boyfriend. your mind is obviously saying something else. Its not a big deal if you are single or not just enjoy yourself and when you least expect it a fella will ask you out.
LEt me know how you get on
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Look at the positives here; guys think you are beautiful so things can be that bad! I know this is very patronising but you are only 15, that is so young and you have so much of your life ahead of you! Being single at your age is much more fun than being tied down and in a relationship, just think one day you will be married and will look back fondly on all the fun you had when you were single (before all the boring grown up things kick in - buying a house, kids, money issues etc!).
If you have heard younger girls talking about being in love then you should not listen, at 13/14 you cannot have any comprehension of what it means to be in love. Being truly in love with someone comes with time; true love survives ups and downs in life, and true love comes with maturity.
Dont worry about being single forever, that wont happen! You just seem to not have met the right guy yet and you are doing the right thing by not going out with every guy you meet! It is important to make sure that you really like a guy, and he has all the right characteristics that you know will make you happy. There is no point in settling for a guy who you dont really like, this will only make you unhappy.
You will find a guy when your not even looking for a boyfriend, the right one will come along but you just have to be patient. In the mean time, enjoy yourself as you are young free and single! You will never get these years back so enjoy them now while you can and worry about boys later!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): Don't worry about it too much you are young you will meet someone, it's also quite normal to be picky there are plenty of us like that when we were your age, you will learn in time to see past peoples flaws and accept them as part of the person you are with.It's most likely that you just haven't met someone you can fall in love it, thats fine too, you're young you want to keep trying new things and your not ready to commit, believe me it will happen for you and it will happen when you least expect it too.
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