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writes:This guy in my class approached me and we had a small conversation. When we got to the subway we went out seperate but he never asked for my phone number. Why would he do that? What are the reasons why a guy wouldnt ask for my phone number? Reply to this Question
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 Well done Beau. I think you have done well to give us a good explanation of how you are feeling.
In my personal opinion, I don't think that this man has done enough to warrant your question, and I am not sure why you think he is interested.
He has lots of girls on his facebook, other than you. He tried to get 'Nicoles' number, to get help with the exam questions, but not yours. He had all semester to speak to you, flirt with you, ask you out, or whatever. He didn't do anything until the last day. He spoke with you because there was no-one else in class. He hit on other girls, but not you. He said your hair is nice ..... and I'm sure it is. But he would be doing far more, if he liked you.
I know you like this man. But it doesn't mean that he will automatically like you back.
He hasn't asked for your number, because he doesn't really want it at the moment.
This does not mean that you are ugly, or will never find a boyfriend. It just means he is not the one for you, and you are not his choice.
It might be an idea for you to focus on a man who speaks to you at every opportunity, asks for your help a lot, and who DOES want your number.
Good hunting.
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reader, Beau_Gallante +, writes (20 July 2009):
Beau_Gallante is verified as being by the original poster of the question Lol, okay I do apologize for that @ BeingBlack and anyone else. The personal message sent to me was just a bit rude. Okay, here is the WHOLE story :)
I am 22 years old and there is a certain someone at my school that
I am into. He is confident, outgoing, nice to everyone and very talented. I really want to get to know this guy, the only way I can get in touch with him is through
facebook.During the semester he did approach me, once, and that day we went to ride on the subway together until we had to go our seperate ways. When we went our seperate ways he did not even ask for my phone number or anything...
he does not have a cellphone, I know this because he is always asking ppl to use their phone.
The only problem with this is first on his facebook he has A LOT of girls on their, from gorgeous to ugly...girls, girls, girls and just generally a very flirtatious man
and he asked this girl (lets call her Nicole) in our classfor her number but never really approached her in that
way (that I know of). The other girls in class he was nicer to than me...so I could never understand why it took him a while to get at me.
On the last day of the semester, on the finals, we waited for the professor to come to class and we were in he hallway flirting for hours, and looking over our
practice finals together. I asked him questions about the final and if he got any help on it. He said that he tried to ask Nicole for her phone number and how he just wanted help. He went on to say he didnt understand why she didnt give it to him because he just wanted to talk about class (lol).
My thing is should I just be friends with this guy or ask him what is up with us on facebook?
Thanks
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (19 July 2009):
Stay calm Beau. Maybe if you told us the 'whole' story, it wouldn't seem so confusing.
You wrote three lines, and ask for advice. Read your question out loud. It took me around 20 seconds, if that, and didn't give us a lot to work with. It sounds like you know a guy in class, you walked to the subway, you talked about nothing in particular. And so you think he should ask for your number based on what?
If there was more, let us know, then we can form an opinion, and try to give good advice.
Generally, people here would like to help. So maybe you can be a little more helpful, and not take the 'general' answers so personally.
If all I did was walk a girl to the subway, I wouldn't ask for her number. Walking someone to the subway means nothing, except that we are going in the same direction.
So come on Beau, what did he say or do that made you ask your question?
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reader, Beau_Gallante +, writes (19 July 2009):
Beau_Gallante is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo is to the person (and they know who they are) who wanted to write me a personal message.I am not conceited or shallow...yes, I do HAVE to think of myself highly BECAUSE I have never been a serious relationship before and that is all I want. Now if you got offended then that is on you...you do not know me or my situation. I had to tell him I was a player (although Im not and I do like this guy) because he has hit on other girls and by passes me. When I told him how I felt he just ignored my email and then started flirting with me for no reason, he acts like he wants to stay single. He also brought something about me being his girlfriend...so instead of sending me a stupid email maybe you should ask about the WHOLE STORY and not just assume I was putting other girls down!!!
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reader, Beau_Gallante +, writes (19 July 2009):
Beau_Gallante is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBtw, there was a girl who he did ask for her phone number and I do not have anything against any other girl...but she was "fat" and wore tonnes of make up in comparison than me. And we were conversing on the last day of the semester and we were talking about getting the answers for the exam. He was saying he tried to get her phone number for help and he didnt understand why it was a big deal because he only wanted help...now I did not bring that up he just told me. Lol, so I do not think its me being to "unattractive" for him or he'd never pursued me.
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reader, Beau_Gallante +, writes (19 July 2009):
Beau_Gallante is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe he was not attracted to me? He complimented me on my hair...and he didnt talk to me until he realized that we were the only two in class. Sigh, I mine as well be a gay or a nun.
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reader, Beleren +, writes (19 July 2009):
Maybe he didn't wanna come on to strong or come off as a creep to you
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (19 July 2009):
 Wow, perhaps a little patience is needed?
Maybe he wants to get to know you better, maybe he has a girlfriend, maybe he's not interested.
Why didn't you ask for his?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): Simple as that he's not interested in you, he doesn't find you attractive enough, or he might already have a girlfriend.
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