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Why would a man of his age want to have an affair with a much younger woman?

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Question - (4 June 2017) 8 Answers - (Newest, 6 June 2017)
A female United States age 51-59, *nnajoy writes:

I am married and now having an affair with a man who told me he 70, but I did abackground check and hes 82!! My guess is he did not want to reveal his real age because I would have said no way. I really like him. I just think it's strange that a man that age wants an affair with someone so much younger.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2017):

Old guys prefer younger women.

Period.

He is not any different from most men.

Younger women are usually in better shape and have more energy and desire in the bedroom. They don't give a damn if they have nothing to talk about as long as she is a firecracker in bed.

No brainer.

As for what you get from an 80 year old, I am not sure?

I am in your age bracket and my guy is in his 60's. There is a 15 year age gap. And although he is amazing in bed, I can't see a man of 80 being that great.

Why don't you try going the other way and getting a guy half his age? He could probably keep up better.

Viagra does not create energy and stamina. The old guy is going to struggle. He may not be now - and I am surprised at that - but he will be soon enough. Why wait around for him to slow down? It will happen sooner than later. And careful you don't kill him and give him a heart attack.

Better yet, why don't you leave your husband if you are that unhappy and cheating behind his back? He deserves a better woman. And don't think the old guy you are cheating with is some prize either. He's been cheating most of his adult life. With you. And with many other women.

Is that the kind of guy you want to be sleeping with? Not just a dog but an old dog with all kinds of tricks and treats over the years?

TBH I think he is totally disgusting!

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (5 June 2017):

CindyCares agony auntWhy is it strange ? Might as well be hung for a sheep as for a lamb ! And if Viagra gives you a helping hand, why not get the youngest / hottest that you can get. I don't think I am saying something sexist and ageist if I say that normally a woman in her 40s looks more erotically appealing than one in her 80s. And I am pretty sure that if a man in his 80s, whether single or married himself, decides to have an affair with a married woman, his focus is not on their intellectual / emotional compatibility, which might be better with someone closer in age, but simply on the chance to shoot off some last fireworks and sow his last wild oats before the Big Sleep.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom +, writes (4 June 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntIs he still able to function sexually? If so, why would he be bothered HOW much younger you are, as long as you are willing to put out?

I do wonder what someone YOUR age is doing having an affair with someone nearly TWICE your age? Why don't you discuss it with your husband?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (4 June 2017):

Honeypie agony auntWell, WHY not?

If a woman (AT any age) is willing to be a mistress why should the man worry about age?

And why would he lie? Well, he probably lies to up his chance of getting the woman to agree, he probably is USED to lying - after all, what CHEAT doesn't LIE to get what he wants?

But I do find your question absolutely ironic. You are worried about his age? That is your concern? Seriously?

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (4 June 2017):

N91 agony auntI agree, why are you concerned about his age and not the fact that you're cheating on your husband?

I think you need to get your priorities in check.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2017):

People who cheat usually lie as well. A man his age and still sexually-active probably wouldn't find many women his age wanting to cheat, let alone have sex with some random married guy. If he's married and cheating, age is irrelevant.

A married-woman cheating on her husband shouldn't be judging anyone else.

I just think it's strange you wrote a post about it. It's nothing to boast about at any age.

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A male reader, judgedick France +, writes (4 June 2017):

judgedick agony auntCan I ask you what can an 82 yo bring to an affair. Can he still have a sexual affair at that age ?

I would say as for your qestion, he might be no different from a young guy in looking for sweetness from a woman , his wife might not offer what he gets from another.

I am not just talking about sex , people think that men first look for sex but often they just look for someone that has the same interests as them.

We all change as we get older thank god i am not the same man as i was 20 yeears ago even though i have never had another woman or at least not yet , lol

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A female reader, MissKin United Kingdom +, writes (4 June 2017):

MissKin agony auntI think it's strange that you're so concerned about this guys age but not about the fact that you're having an affair

I also think it's odd that you're lying to your spouse and sleeping around.

Maybe he didn't WANT to have affair with you specifically because of your age? Maybe age doesn't matter to him? Maybe he still has some sexual needs and can't meet them with people his own age? You're between 41-50 and 50 is about the point women (usually but not always) suffer from menopause and their interest in sex becomes less and im not sure if this really ever improves much so he went for someone who doesn't have those issues yet?

Maybe he thought you were lying about your age that you were closer to his age than you were saying?

Why are you willing to have an affair with someone 20 years older but not 30?

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