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writes:Hello - I feel like I have reached a breaking point in my twenties and I am really down. Here is the background - ever since I can remember I have been negative - on the outside I have a family- a career- somewhat good looks and most important health- but I just can't enjoy life- I worry about everything and then I fall into these pits of depression- I've tried therapy- meds (tons) and and nothing has worked. The only thing that distracts the emotions are partying and men - and both of those have gotten me into deeper holes( I've attracted men and friends that use me or are verbally abusive) my therapist says I need to change my outlook on life but I don't know how? It seems impossible? Why can't I be happy alone? I see people suffering from diseases and close to death that are more positive than me. I have blamed my parents my upgringing and anything and anyone for my misery but I've reached a breaking point. For the first time I am alone away from the negative influences in my life and it feels lonely - I can hear my thoughts and I just don't know how to changeIf anyone has had any advice on changing worry/negative thoughts please advise
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2017): Consider spiritual-enlightenment. When nothing earthly and ordinary appeases the soul, it is hungry for hope and salvation. Consider worship. Seeking a spiritual-connection helps many hopeless and lonely people turn to worship for peace and tranquility. They find prayer and meditation comforting and tranquil.
If you have a lonely and meaningless life, believing in nothing beyond your own comprehension and abilities hasn't brought you anything but sadness and emptiness. Inwardly, you're searching for something more.
Then try something you've never tried before.
The other alternative is to volunteer time to help others in need. You have a lot of time on you hands to concentrate on no one but yourself. If you see suffering around you, then apply yourself to be someone to lessen that suffering.
Be an angel of mercy to those who need help.
The time otherwise wasted feeling ungrateful for your life will transform you into a loving, compassionate, and happier person. Knowing you have a purpose, you bring comfort to others, and you will appreciate those blessings you have all the more. Having no belief in where good things come from and how all things were created; usually leaves one feeling there is something missing. There is no joy. Where there is no joy, you find sorrow and hopelessness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2017): Try focusing on thinking outside of yourself. Try volunteer work, doing something with the purpose of benefitting someone else. I think this will be good for you socially (don't go looking for romantic connections!) so you can work with people for a common cause. And you'll feel good about making a difference.
I have depression tendencies and they get worse when I focus too much on myself and have too much time to think. Volunteering or getting involved in community work is good because it gets me out there, gets me to be active, and I can help others. It works for me, hopefully it can help you too.
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