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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together just over 2 years. over thosses 2 years she has gone out with many male friends some has bothered me some hasnt. the other day i went out with a female friend and told her about it all. i went out with the same female friend a few days later and she has got annoyed about it and all that. but i have only done this a few times and she has done it loads. why is she been like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Hi, i have also been in a relationship with boyfriend for 2 years. I love him to bits, he is my best friend and my boyfriend. We spend alot of time together and we enjoy eachothers company. I think your girlfriend may be getting worried that you are enjoying another females company more than hers... i think the best thing you can do is re asure her how much you love her and love spending time with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Hi, i have also been in a relationship with boyfriend for 2 years. I love him to bits, he is my best friend and my boyfriend. We spend alot of time together and we enjoy eachothers company. I think your girlfriend may be getting worried that you are enjoying another females company more than hers... i think the best thing you can do is re asure her how much you love her and love spending time with her.
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reader, shiraz +, writes (7 December 2008):
hiyah its obvious! shes insecure and jealousy has kicked in, she just is seeing it from a differernt angle and its not something she likes. reassure her but remind her you were fair and didnt make an issue when she was out with guys. it doesnt atuomatically mean something if your out with the oppisite sex but the raders do go off and everyone is insecure! talk to her. you need a balance in a relationship and if its something you find an issue it will affect your future, i dont belive in changing who you are and what you do for someone else i dont think its a relationship or healthy way of living. mates are mates! best of luck xxx
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reader, sparkleworks  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 It sounds like standard jealousy, which is pretty much unavoidable, especially at that age. The key here is to create a fine balance - you want to tell your girlfriend enough about your female friend so that she knows what you two are up to and feels secure, but you also don't want to make it seem like you're "talking about her all the time". Maybe you could suggest that the three of you hang out sometime and let her see that there's nothing to worry about.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Whats good for the goose n all that hun. Gotta have equality, rarely works otherwise, builds resentment.
C xxxxxx
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 She probably has some jealousy issues. You say that sometimes her going out with male friends in the past bothered you...take what you felt then, and why, and you can probably assume that she feels similarly now. Reassure her there is nothing between you and this girl, and explain that since she has done the same in the past you thought it would be okay. Maybe it's time for the two of you to sit down together and re-define your ground rules about what you will tolerate from one another, and what you won't, so that there is no confusion in the future. Good luck =]
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