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writes:I am going through a tough break up we were together for almost a year and he cheated then broke up with me it has been almost a month and yes i have called. And text.wanting answers he blocked my number because i want my sons things back. He is telling his child that he cant hang Out with my child because if me. I don't understand why he is so mean and hateful to me i didn't do this he still admits that no one has ever been as good to him as i was do yo u think i have ruined my chances.i
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): He's not healthy so hoping he will act like an accountable, healthy, loving man is not helping anyone.
This is who he is. He has problems that need to be resolved via counselling.
I say just walk away and shut him out of your life. Focus on your son, doing what you know is true; living honest and happy.
It gets better.
If he cannot stop harassing you, block his number, his emails, and get police involved.
That is not LOVE by any means. Its toxic.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Yep that sounds messy. Who knows if he will ever regret it and even if he does, it still doesn't mean he wants to get back with you. If he does come back, there are no guarantees that it will work out and from what you have said, it seems he doesn't want you in his life.
Men tend to do what they want and there isn't always a workable reason. Things can also turn on a pin head and very suddenly so maybe he didn't give any signs.
You arn't alone, millions of people go through this all the time...not all relationships are meant to work, no matter how much we love.
Move on and give him room to miss you.
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reader, broken33 +, writes (27 February 2012):
broken33 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just wonder why things were so good and he messed them up by going back to his ex who by the way has slept with all his friends and is on and off with one of her kids father. Is he ever going to regret it
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (27 February 2012):
It's that age old problem when a relationship ends that the one who got dumped is going to suffer the most!
You do not need answers because you already know the ultimate answer and that is that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. All the time you are bothering him by texting and calling he will just get nastier and nastier, because he has made it clear that he has moved on.
Begin your recovery from heartbreak today. Accept that you and him are over and try to focus on positive things in your life, like having your child to love and care for.
The sooner you begin the process, the sooner you will begin to feel better and be able to get on with your life.
Good luck sweetie xxx
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Chances of what ? of getting back together ?...
Ah then, you are not contacting him simply because you want answers or because you want your son's stuff back. You are contacting him because you want to put your foot in the door for a reconciliation.
He must have read your mind, and he must be definitely against this idea. That's why he is sort of forced to be more forceful and distant, than if you had accepted it is over.
I guess this is his ( unpleasant, I agree, particularly because there are your kids involved )way to tell you : Don't get any ideas- we are totally done.
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 thats how it gets with ex's. Ive got 2 of them. the first one hates me and the 2nd one hates me every time I suggest we are not getting back together. the best idea is to stay away from them. they are disfunctional relationships.
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