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writes: my girlfriend and I have been dating for over seven months, and the majority of it has been long distance. Over the summer i fell in love with her and i knew that i wanted to be with her in college. While at college she went out with people like usual and i had asked who the people were and she told me that one of the boys she was with she had hooked up with the year before. I instantly got nervous but she assured me that nothing would happen with him and he meant nothing so i got over it. I visited her for halloween and looking through her phone i found a message to him tfrom her that she wanted to hook up soo badly, i was so upset. She lied to me about it for weeks and the trust wasnt there but she assured me nothing happened. I kinda got over the whole thing but the trust wasnt there and after months the trust was gone and i broke up with her. I was devastated, but i couldnt deal with not trusting her. After 2 days I calmed down and we started talking again. I realized i could trust her and that I made a mistake and i shouldnt have broke up with her. She told me she wanted things to be like before but also said that she had talked to the kid she messaged in the begining of the year and wanted to hook up with him and was attracted to him but assured me she didnt. After a week, we officially got back togehter. I asked her to be honest and if anything happened with the kid and she said that she made out with him the day after i broke up with her. She told me she asked him to make out and it was only 20 seconds and then she told him she couldnt do it and walked away. I just dont know what to do, im so upset but i love her so much. Is it messed up that she went to the kid she did stuff with before and the reason i broke up with her one day after? what should i do? ive been so upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know haha she was drunk and i love her so much so i forgave her. what hurts is a day after we broke up she hooked up with him. but she said ot was very little and she hates him now and she only wants me
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 February 2012):
 SHE ASKED HIM TO MAKE OUT when you were together???
Why are you back together with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes i am the younger one in this situation. And she asked him to make out when we were together and th e day after sh actually did. Were together again but im really upset about it
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 February 2012):
Ok your age says 16-17 and you are in the USA most folks here don’t go to college till they are 18… so are you the younger partner here?
She asked him to make out… that’s pretty messed up the day after you break up.
I am going to suggest that you two are not cut out to do LDR and you should move on to bigger and better things.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 February 2012):
 Yes it is messed up! At the end of the day, if she really loved you she would never message another guy saying she wanted to hook up with him, let alone make out with him the day after you broke up! She doesnt love you, respect you or care about you if she acts like this.
I think you need to end this once and for all and move on, you are very young and you will meet many more girls who you will fall in love with. This girl clearly cannot be faithful to a boyfriend yet, she is very immature and doesnt understand how much she is hurting you with her actions.
Dont settle for a girl that treats you like this, if she wants to be messaging other boys then she needs to be single - if you are her boyfriend you should be the only guy she is attracted to, she shouldnt even be looking at anyone else never mind messaging them!
You can do a lot better, get rid of her and move on.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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