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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Please, please give me some advice as I'm at the end of my tether!!Last year at work I had the misfortune of sitting next to a really rude, snappy and belittling colleague..At first we got on ok but as the months went past her attitude towards me became awful - she'd tell me to shut up when I got in, in the mornings and all i'd say is "morning guys, how's everyone"... Anytime I'd have a conversation with another colleague she'd jump in belittling me. If I needed help with some aspects of my job and asked her on some days she'd be fine and others she'd just snap and shout making me feel pathetic.Her constant mumblings under her breath about me really upset me too. I mean she is in her 40's- it's not the attitude you'd expect from an older person!Various other things happened but I won't go in to detail.Now I never spoke back to as I didn't want to create an uncomfortable atmosphere but after nearly a year of this I spoke to my supervisor as I dreaded coming in to work and it felt I was walking on eggshells.Luckily my supervisor was sympathetic and spoke to this woman about her attitude towards me and things seemed ok for a bit and then she started up again. This woman was very clever as she'd be as nice as pie when management was around but rude when they weren't.About 2 months later the whole office has a seating shuffle and I was moved in to another room- which was fantastic- I had minimal contact with her and I actually enjoyed coming in to work. However 7 months later they moved her back in to my room and it's started again!What can I do? Speak to my supervisor again? This woman is out of control- I discovered its not just me she speaks like cr*p too and others have been on the receiving end of her rudeness - she even swore at 1 guy. Management were told and once again they just spoke to her about her attitude. Nothing gets done! If any of us were to swear we'd be dismissed! I know our overall big manger and this woman get on so well so I'm guessing that's why she still has her job but it's so unfair!! Also it's difficult to prove what goes on as she never sends emails, it's all done verbally but out of managers earshot. Everyone is too scared to make a formal complaint in case it jeopardises their job (a few of the guys are only temps)....I could look for another job but whose to say there won't be someone exactly like her there???Any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012): Does your employer offer an anonymous "hotline" to make a complaint? If so, report this incident and also ask that they address thos issue with management. Another way you could handle this matter is draft an anonymous letter to your employer's President which will definitely spark action. Good luck and please keep us up to date. My heart goes out to you and I will say a prayer for you that all works out for you. I simply cannot fit it in my head how some persons can be so cruel, insensitive and heartless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): Can't you ring human resources (HR) and speak to them? Obviously this supervisor isn't doing enough.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Hi
Check your contract and/or Employees Handbook to see their policy and procedures for bullying,there has to be one,you have already made one complaint.
Also if you can, get statements from the others who have been bullied by her.She has had 2 verbal warnings already so a written one should be next. It might create an atmosphere but she can't be allowed to get away with this.
Read these
http://www.unison.org.uk/acrobat/13375.pdf
http://www.worksafety.act.gov.au/page/view/1211
http://www.tuc.org.uk/tuc/rights_bullyatwork.cfm
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (20 December 2012):
 Surely your work has a policy on bullying in the workplace? If you're not sure, ask someone who may know where it is! Your manager has a duty to ensure that all employees feel safe, happy and secure in their jobs. your manager is within breach of company policy, and if this were to go above your managers head, then he/she would most certainly lose his/her job!!!
You have rights as employees, try and find out what they are and how they benefit you. A bit of teamwork can change managerial attitude very quickly once jobs are on the line.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2012): Hi, Do you not have a whistleblower line where you can call or send an anonymous email and then explain all the staff grievienaces . Also explain who she is friendly with at the top and staff fear victimisation.
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