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writes:As a 24-year-old woman, I should probably be able to figure these things out by now. I’m guessing most people got over asking this type of question in grade school. Problem is, I have some sort of undiagnosed social disorder (most likely Asperger’s) that makes it really, really hard for me to relate to/empathize with others and interpret social cues. So any advice is really appreciated!I met this guy at my local gym (he works there) and some of the little things he’s been doing over the past couple months have me wondering. Then again, I may be reading too much into him just being “nice.” I’m in good shape but I’m not super hot or super skinny and when it comes to the sport we both play, he’s waaaaaaay better at it than I am.-He always calls me by name and he’ll start random conversations with me, or sometimes keep a sentence or two from me going into a full-on discussion. If he’s walking by he occasionally touches me on the shoulder. (I would not do either of these things with someone I had no interest in, but then again I’m neither a big talker nor a fan of touching people I don’t know well.)-Any time I tell him I went somewhere over the weekend, he wants to know who I went with. Since we don’t have the same group of friends, he’s not going to know who any of the people I list are anyway. I’m wondering if this is his way of trying to find out whether I’m single.-He’s told me on more than one occasion that I am “looking fit.” We don’t live in the UK so I don’t think this is quite the same as calling someone attractive or hot, and it could well be a compliment he is allowed or encouraged by the management to give to regulars, but I also don’t hear him saying this to other women/girls he crosses paths with.-He not only remembers things I tell him, but apparently mentions them to others. A few days ago he was asking me about my job. I had recently done really well at something work related and I was excited enough about it that I told him. The next day I was back at the gym and one of his coworkers/friends walked by and said, “So I hear you did really great at _________”. I’m 100% positive this person did not overhear the original conversation, so the guy I’m wondering about had to have told him. Why would he do that? Sure it was good work on my part but it wasn’t some kind of huge news or anything.-He’s gone out of his way to let it slip that he doesn’t have kids. As I mentioned, we play the same sport, and he also coaches kids to play this sport. He was there after hours one time working with the kids’ team and we crossed paths. It was pretty apparent to me that he couldn’t possibly have six or eight kids of his own between the ages of 7 and 14, but he still mentioned a day or two later that they weren’t his and he didn’t have any. I don’t know why he would make a point of telling me this, but it seemed a little odd.-He’s expressed (though casually and only just recently) an interest in hanging out outside of his workplace. I’m hesitant to give too many details on the off chance that someone I know or he knows reads this, but basically we were discussing an activity and he commented, “I’d like to go __________ with you sometime.” (This one is actually what prompted me to ask the question. I would absolutely not make an attempt to hang out one-on-one with someone of the opposite sex if I had no interest in them, but that might just be me.)What do you think, aunts? Are any of these signs of interest on his part or am I just reading him wrong? For what it’s worth, I’m pretty sure he’s single. He doesn’t wear a ring and has never mentioned a girlfriend. It seems like he spends most weekends out playing the same sport with the same group of guys. Help!! :)
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (10 May 2012):
Looking at what he's already done + he would like to go to the secret place with you, I'd say he's definitely interested in you.
If you like him too then I'd say go hang out with him.
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reader, _crystalxo  +, writes (6 May 2012):
He sounds pretty interested to me! He has even brought up going somewhere with you. He has also brought up topics that aren't regularly discussed with customers and things like that. Spend more time with him if he seems cool, i mean there no harm in that right? Good luck !
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): First of all you don't need to be super skinny to be beautiful. Actually I read somewhere that most guy prefer curves in a woman.
Did you say something encouraging to him, when he suggested to hang out outside gym? That would help to see what's coming next. But it definitely sounds like he is interested.
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