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writes:I'm a seventeen year old girl. I'm a junior in High School and I've never been in an serious relationship, and honestly I've never been that intrested in anyone. Until a month ago. We've always been in similar circles, but we weren't friends. He's one of those geeky guys that hasn't really had a girlfriend. We hung out for a few weeks, then I asked him for his number. Failed horribly, he said we'd just talk on messenger. Later that week, I told him that I liked him. I felt like I owed it to the sweet shy thing.He gave me a highfive. I told him that I'd never ask him out, he said hypothetically, if I did, he'd say 'I don't want to ruin our friendship'I believe him to. Now, we talk everyday for hours and hours. We talk about personal stuff. He said that if we weren't friends he'd totally date me, because he finds me 'sexually desirable'. He dated this girl, they weren't serious but they were friends and they don't talk anymore. He says he just scared of losing me. How do I make him see that I'm worth risking our friendship?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 December 2009):
You can't. The reason is, though he finds you sexually desirable, as he said, he has not said he really fancies you or would want to be with you for anything else other than sex. He is your friend and he just doesn't want it to go further than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): Well first ask your self are you willing you risk losing him if you guys don't work out?Also why is it that it is alway if we don't work out as gf and bf we will never speak again. Seriously its annoying and childish no offence but I am a 18 year old boy I dated one of my best friens since we were little and she si about two years younger then me. It was about when I was 15 and she just turned 14 I my feelings startee growing for her a lot more since I always liked her more than a friend but after that one day where i saw how hurt she was when her boyfriend of 2 months cheated on her I just wanted to rip his throught out I hated seeingg her like that although she always looks beautiful when she cries I just pisses me of to see her hurt.Okay now i'm off topic the main point is we date a month after that day cause i came out with my feelings she said she loved me back but she didn't want to loose anyone else in her life and that she couldn't bare to loose me, so i promise her that if we didn't work out it might get weird but no matter what we will stay close friend and some how forget about the whole dating thing. It might sound strange but its something we both wanted to try because we don't want to be left wondering for the rest of are lives what if?
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reader, TheDarkDoc  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 I think u should talk to him honestly about what u think 'that u it worth taking the risk of ur friendship' Coz i know how does it feel falling in love with a friend !!! Just wake it clear, be brave and don't worry !!! Hope i've helped
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