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*lgardner1
writes:The other day I called my guy friend, “buddy”. He did not take this well and said not to call him that. But we have been friends for years. Why is this such a problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, N91  +, writes (8 October 2019):
 Because he has feelings for you and by calling him buddy you’re friend zoning him and he doesn't like it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 October 2019):
 You have been friends for years… and you can't ask HIM a simple question like " why do you get upset when I call you buddy " ?...
Anyway, if we have to guess, I have two guesses :
1 ) you call him a friend but actually he is someone whom you have friendzoned. He would like to be more than a platonic friend, and , even if he were resigned to not see that happen, still, being reminded of his friend-zoned condition annoys him.
2 ) You really are true, good friends and he knows that, in general, calling someone buddy has a slightly sarcastic , antagonistic hue ,which he may have felt is inappropriate for your relationship. " Hey buddy, can't you see this is a resident only parking ? "
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (7 October 2019):
 Why did you not ask him at the time? Only HE knows the real reason he objects to being called that name.
Perhaps it reminds him of someone he didn't like? Perhaps he dislikes people using generic terms instead of his name. Perhaps he just doesn't like the word "buddy".
Strange that you have been friends for years but don't feel able to ask him such a simple thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2019): Some people don't like being called "dear"...same reason likely, they find it condescending.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 October 2019):
 OK, so don't call him Buddy.
If you REALLY want to know WHY, ask him.
He might find it patronizing, he might not WANT to be "just friends", he might hate that word... who knows? (well, HE knows) so you should have ASKED him when HE brought it up.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (6 October 2019):
 This is usually the case when someone doesn't want to be seen as a friend because they have actual feelings for you and you're friendzoning them by calling them your friend. He's probably tried to exit the friend zone but sadly, to no avail.
Has he ever told you that he likes you as more than a friend? He maybe has or otherwise he's been hinting at the fact and you haven't been paying attention well enough to pick up on those hints.
Perhaps you should have a conversation about it and see what he says, if he'll say anything at all. That's probably the reason though. Hope this helped.
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reader, AnnieV1979 +, writes (6 October 2019):
 It just might be a quirk of his, but all you have to do is apologize and don't do it again. *Shrug*
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