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writes:I was seeing my ex boyfriend for nine months when I ended it - during that time he told me he loved me and wanted us to go on holiday together this year but also twice he stopped speaking to me for an overall period of four weeks and I never knew why. Then we had a perfect few months until October when he made arrangements with me four times in one week then let me down some with no notification or reason. I ended it and tried to find out about this odd behaviour and he told me to move on because he was going to. One of his friends contacted me to see if I fancied going for a meal new years eve. I accepted. He saw my ex and told him and now my ex is ignoring me again????? So confused and don't get it!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): He doesn't want to be with you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.
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reader, Lotsalove.  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 Simple.
He does it because you let him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Because the fellow's not screwed to tight. Get rid the fellow fast mate or he'll give ya cowp brinke.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 January 2011):
He does it because he knows he can get a reaction from you. This is how some people are. He needs an ego boost, and knowing that you still care and reply, he treats you this way.
So, stop it. This guy is an ex, and you should leave him in the past. Don't bother with a guy who so clearly doesn't care about you. Not only can you do better, but you should do better.
Just cut contact with this guy permanently.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 January 2011):
 You don't get it- but the good news is , you don't need to get it- he is an ex !
Just for the pleasure of mental speculation, my guess is that it's the usual ego thing. You ex does not want to be with you , but he likes the idea you are still carrying a torch for him, and you are not dating someone else. That strokes his ego and also puts you in the " just in case - in a pinch, she will do " category. So he may be annoyed at the idea you are actually moving on ( even when he encouraged you to do so )and acting coldly in reaction.
But,..why ask why. This ex of yours is still the same guy that in October canceled on you 4 times in a week . You (rightly ) ended it with him because you don't want a guy who cancels plans 4 times in a week. Ergo, hopefully you are also not interested anymore in penetrating the workings of a mind belonging to a guy who cancels plans 4 times in a week.
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